11 Common Signs Of Inner Child Wounds, Inner Child Wounding that shows up in our everyday life
So What Is Inner Child Wounds?
Well if we look at the Inner Child, the Inner Child is aspects of the human psyche, the unconscious inner child that is within us all. But the inner child within carries both light and shadow aspects. Those light and shadow aspects of the inner child stem from life experiences and life challenges that may have not been healed.
Examples of light aspects include that sense of awe and magic we see in the inner magical child or innocent child and the shadow aspects include the wounded child and also aspects of the eternal child that doesn’t want to take self-responsibility.
Common Causes Of Inner Child Wounds
Common causes of Inner Child Wounding include painful and traumatic experiences, physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse as well as neglect. Although deep inner child trauma is usually caused by abuse, neglect, and trauma we all have inner child wounds triggered by normal childhood experiences.
Inner child wounds can be triggered by a deeply embarrassing experience at school, a hurtful moment with a sibling, or a crossword by a parent or caregiver. For those of you who are Empaths or HSP’s, those wounds can be triggered by the painful experiences of those around you. A lot of our everyday anxiety and stress is actually triggered by inner child wounding.
There are many different approaches to healing the Inner Child, some include nurturing and re-parenting the Inner Child, Internal Family System Therapy, Archetypal and Inner Child Healing. Others are about emotional and nervous system regulation.
Accept Your Inner Child Is Wounded:
Well like any form of healing or therapy it is important to recognise your inner child has some wounding. Now as I say that it is important for you to understand at your core, you are not damaged. This sort of view creates so many other problems.
In many ways, it is our unconscious beliefs and patterns, our unconscious stories that keep certain patterns in the psyche that needs to be addressed.
Once you accept that aspects of your inner child needs nurturing, needs support it helps encourage more self-awareness and self-care.
Recognise Your Inner Child Needs To Be Loved And Cared For:
The most important thing a child needs is love, acceptance. We are very good at being loving to other people, but most of us seriously struggle to love ourselves.
When a child feels wounded mentally, emotionally, physically, or even spiritually that child needs love, that child needs acceptance, that child needs care.
Your Inner Child wounds needs that self-love, that self-care, and that self-acceptance it needs the right type of healing, support and inner child nurturing.
Learn To Listen To Your Inner Child:
An emotionally and mentally healthy child needs to be heard, to be understood by those who are caring for that child. Your Inner Child needs to be heard, so many Inner Child wounds begin with not abuse or trauma, but neglect, even misunderstanding. Take the time to listen to what your Inner Child needs and wants, take time to understand your inner child.
One of the easiest ways to start listening to your Inner Child is getting into the habit of daily meditation and journaling. Meditation should always come first as meditation helps us slow down the monkey mind and become more connected to our internal world. This helps you naturally become aware of those distorted and unhealthy thought patterns and behaviours, those triggers. The more you become aware of these thoughts and behaviours you can start journalling them. Art Journaling can be very helpful in-fact deeply therapeutic.
Let Your Inner Child Come Out To Play
Every child needs lots of playtime, creative time, so does your inner child. So make sure you make time for your inner child, we are never too old for some fun, especially things you loved to do in your childhood. Spending time with children especially young children is a great way to nurture your inner child, to help some of those inner child wounds especially those abandoned inner child wounds. Ylang Ylang the inner child oil can support more creative flow whilst soothing the nervous system.
Heal Your Wounded Child
Get the support, the help you need to heal your wounded child, making sure you choose someone who is suitably qualified. Inner Child Therapy and Healing is something that should always be done in a very safe and effective way. And remember it doesn’t matter how experienced a healer or therapist you are. We all need a little help to see those blind spots. I am a healer of 30 years and I still get help from other healers, therapists to support other aspects of my healing and my inner child. If you would like to learn more about my one -to one Inner Child Healing Sessions CLICK HERE
The Benefits Of Inner Child Wound Healing
When You Heal Your Inner Child Wounds You Heal The Adult You
The reality is when we heal our inner child wounds we heal the adult we are today, it helps heal our relationship not just with ourselves, but the world and those around us. Inner Child healing can help increase confidence, increase self-esteem and self-worth, encourage healthier boundaries and more effective communication in relationship. This doesn’t just help our mental and emotional wellbeing but our physical wellbeing.1
Learn How To Develop Your Intuition For Life And Business. Learn why intuition is such an underdeveloped tool that more and more of us should learn how to master. Why it is a natural life skill many of us are not investing enough time to develop and enhance.
What Is Intuition?
Intuition is an inner knowing about something, someone without any analytical information or rational reasoning. Many would regard Intuition as a gut feeling or hunch.
In many ways, it’s an innate trait that we start to disconnect from in childhood due to a variety of distorted patterns and programming, trauma, and disconnect from our soul and higher intelligence.
Some of you maybe like me, naturally intuitive and creative while some of you are more logically minded. And need to learn how to develop your intuition.
No matter how intuitive you are or not, intuition is something that can always be developed even more.
Why Intuition Is A Powerful Tool
Sadly most of us live in a world that is built on illusion and fakery. We just need to look around at social media, news, politics, government, and even medicine. To see how much we are fed a narrative that suits someone’s agenda, someone else’s perceptions not necessarily, truth, fact, or fiction.
Every day media is trying to sell you something, often a product or course that doesn’t do what it implies or claims on the packet.
Every day someone is being prescribed something that does more harm than healing. Every day we are exposed to other people’s truth or perceptions, not necessarily our truth.
When you develop your intuition to a certain level, it is much easier to discern when something is not quite what it appears to be. It can help protect you from danger, and from making big and costly mistakes.
My intuition has saved me from lots of negative situations and one extremely dark and dangerous situation. Your intuition is a powerful tool when you learn to master it.
Intuition And Spiritual Discernment
Strong intuition can help you become more spiritually discerning, something so important in life and any sort of soul-aligned business.
Spiritual Discernment is extremely important if you are a spiritual teacher, healer, or coach. Where clients or students are looking to you for support or guidance.
The more you develop your intuition the easier it is to navigate what is right and wrong for you. I believe in many ways intuition is a direct connection to god, your higher self, or your spiritual helpers e.g. your Guardian Angel.
So the more you cultivate a connection with your inner self, the stronger that connection becomes.
But sadly most people today spend so much time in their heads or on external distractions they have lost their inner connection.
That is why so many people even highly experienced intuitives, healers, coaches, and therapists, give their power away every day to other teachers, especially celebrity Spiritual Teachers or Psychics. Believe and invest in what someone else says without using any Spiritual Discernment.
It is great to explore and learn from other teachers but NEVER give your power away believing they have all the answers. I see so many on the spiritual path idolizing others to a very unhealthy degree. Remember we’re all having a human experience, some yes maybe more awakened, more aware, and have more wisdom in certain areas.
But sometimes they aren’t. Develop your intuition and discernment so you can be more self-responsible and independent.
“I define intuition as the subtle knowing without ever having any idea why you know it,” Sophy Burnham, bestselling author of The Art of Intuition
Learn How To Develop Your Intuition
LOOSEN YOUR DISTRACTIONS
The more you can loosen those distractions, that you use to avoid facing what you are feeling or even seeing.
You will get into a more being state than an avoidance or resistance state. Just starting to recognise those distractions and avoidance tactics is the first thing.
How many times in a day do you spend checking your phone, checking your emails, Facebook, or watching TV, instead of just being?
These are the types of things we all do to keep the mind distracted and busy. We now give so much power to the mind that we neglect our other senses. When you start reducing and loosening those distractions you will find it much easier to develop your intuition and notice those signs and synchronicities.
MEDITATE DAILY
The ability to meditate helps loosen those attachments, those distractions that can stop you from developing your intuition. Meditation helps you access stillness and calm, deeper connection with the self. Meditation naturally helps you have more pauses and presence between your thoughts.
It helps you become more of the observer, the witness to everything within and around you. I believe more traditional forms of meditation are the most powerful way to access this. Now even though I teach traditional and modern forms of meditation and Guided Meditations ( Guided Imagery Meditations) guided in my work as a meditation teacher for over 20 years.
I believe learning how to meditate is a far more effective way to develop your intuition from a clearer mind. Saying that as a healer, Guided Meditations with certain types of healing work can be a powerful way to help unlock those untapped or suppressed gifts. One of the reasons I created this Free Healing Guided Meditation – Awaken Your Soul.
GET GROUNDED AND PROTECTED
Learn To Ground More: The more grounded and protected you become, the more solid, and clearer your intuitive messages will come through.
No matter how highly awake and intuitive you are if you are not fully earthed and grounded. It is very easy to be hijacked by disinformation from negative sources, entities, the ego, your own or others’ trauma, and or distortions. No one is immune.
That is why energy protection tools are so important, especially for empaths, healers, and hsp’s who are more sensitive to energetic shifts, other people’s trauma, and wounding.
OUT OF YOUR HEAD
The more you learn how to get out of the monkey mind you will get out of your own way. The more you will naturally become more attuned to yourself more holistically and spiritually. In the twenty-first century, we have allowed in many ways our minds to be a slave to the system, a slave to the media, a slave to other people’s rules, beliefs, and systems.
The more you can go inside, become more connected to your body, more connected to all your senses, you will naturally develop your intuition and your unique clairvoyant gifts. Those very natural spiritual gifts, gifts that God gave us.
LEARN TO RELAX
The more you can relax, and be calm, the stronger those intuitive nudges and signs will come through. But sadly today most people don’t know how to relax or switch off, as I already mentioned they are too distracted and too busy.
That is why I teach therapists, healers, and coaches to become Relaxation Therapists and Teachers. It is much harder to help empower someone in their life, help them access their inner compass if they are constantly anxious or stressed. For them to be able to discern between their intuition or what is F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real. So learn how to switch off.
GET CREATIVE
Creativity is the art of channeling, inventing, and creating something new, it requires inspiration that comes from a level of spontaneity that is intuitive. Creativity and Intuition are very right-brain processes, that help expand and nurture each other. “Intuition and creativity are fundamentally, interdependent and interchangeable. They reflect the highest forms of applicable intelligence for any and every ability.” Intuition as the Basis for Creativity, C Woolf
Creativity helps us expand perceived limitations, think and be out of the box, all extremely helpful in being able to sense beyond what we can see, feel and hear on the physical level. And a powerful tool that can help develop your intuition.
IDENTIFY YOUR STRONGEST CLAIR GIFTS
When you can identify your strongest clair gift and start nurturing it, you will often find you will naturally develop other clair gifts, other intuitive gifts. The most common intuitive and Clair Gifts are Clairvoyance, Claircognisance, Clairsentient, Clairaudient, Clairgustance and Clairailence.
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In my Develop Your Intuition Course I include a variety of exercises and tools to identify your strongest clair gifts and then how to start developing and expanding those gifts. There are so many ways you can develop those gifts,
If you would love to learn how to Develop Your Intuition, Spiritual And Psychic Gifts, check out the gold or quantum level of the Lightworkers portal.
Essential Flower Essences For Empaths, Sensitives, and Healers. Learn the mental and emotional benefits of flower essences, Bach essences, and other types of essences around today.
What Are Flower Essences?
Flower Essences are part of the Essence Family. You can get all sorts of essences including Plant, Gem & Crystal Essences, Environmental Essences, even Geometrical Essences.
Flower Essences are flower extracts, that are known to be mentally, emotionally, and physically balancing. Flower essences originated in the 1930’s from the work of Dr. Bach, a Medical Doctor, and Homeopath. Dr. Bach was a strong believer that “the key to good health was by emotional harmony”.
Dr. Bach went onto establish the use of 38 different flower essences to support different emotions. Each essence was obtained from either a plant, flower, or tree.
Flower essences are normally extracted through two different processes that Dr. Bach used; The sun method is used for the more delicate flower which involves floating the flower heads in water directly in the sun for approx 3 hours. The boiling the plant method tends to be more for other flowers and woodland plants that tend to blossom in lower sunlight. Both processes extract the vibration of the flowers into the water, which after being filtered is mixed with equal parts of Brandy and then classed as a stock remedy.
Different Types Of Flower Essences Today
Today there are many different types and ranges of Flower Essences and Essences from a variety of things. While studying my Diploma in Flower Essences we explored the
Australian Bush Essences
Bach Flower Essences
Findhorn Flower Essences
Later on I came to explore and use different types of essences
Divine Harmony Essences
Indigo Essences – especially the crystal essences
I have also used personally other essences created or channeled by other therapists, these include Janine Thorpe and Sally Arthurs.
My Experience Using Flower Essences
I was first introduced to Flower Essences in the early ’90s by a retired Dr practising different holistic medicine approaches. At a time in my life where I was young and ill, dealing with the physical, mental and emotional challenges of chronic and rare medical challenges in my early twenties. Conditions and symptoms that mainstream medicine couldn’t treat or offer me any support.
During this period two of my family members were involved in a serious physical assault which was extremely traumatising to them both. The practitioner that I was attending recommended they both take Rock Rose. Rock Rose was useful at helping release the terror and trauma of such an experience. Now only one chose to take the remedy, the other didn’t. The interesting thing I noticed was one sister after this dealt with the trauma more healthily than the other.
Later in my life another therapist prescribed me some Bach Remedies for a very stressful time in my life. It was a situation where I was working for an organisation where I was being put in a very difficult situation. After taking the flower essences I was so surprised how much the essences didn’t just help me feel more resilient but helped me become more self-aware, make me realise why I was struggling so much more.
I then went on to study a Diploma in Flower Essence Healing at college and began to use Flower Essences and other Essences in my work as a healer, coach and Stress Counsellor.
I was amazed at how effective it was for many clients suffering from extreme stress, Post Traumatic Stress, and Depression.
As someone who has always been extremely empathic and sensitive I found the Indigo Essences extremely beneficial at giving me a protective layer. This was particularly helpful for a few years after a Near Death Experience that left me very open spiritually and psychically. So much so that I was feeling others’ emotional and physical symptoms on a very exaggerated level.
Bach Essential Flower Essences For Empaths and Healers
Centaury for the inability to say NO. Centaury is very useful for empaths and healers anyone else who struggle to be assertive, struggle to stand up for themself. The people pleasers, the over givers, those tend to put others first and struggle to say NO. For those with co-dependency traits.
Crab Apple carries the energy of purity, many healers and intuitive’s find it helpful to clean the energy of other people’s trauma or negative energy. Wounded healers and unruly empaths can too easily absorb or take on the trauma or suffering of their clients or those around them.
Oak is for the individual who tends to be very strong, capable, and self-reliant. But tend to work very hard ( classical workaholic) who tend to push their limits, work through challenges without taking time out, breaks, etc
Star Of Bethlehem is a very effective flower essence to help heal old trauma, abuse, loss, and grief. Because Empaths and Healers tend to attract more situations where people are sharing their trauma and suffering. This not only exposes them to other people’s pain and suffering but is more likely to trigger personal wounds, memories not addressed that are still held in the cellular body. So is very supportive during Inner Child Therapy.
Walnut is a powerful essence to support us with any sort of transition in life. But it is also extremely helpful as a protection against outside influences, think about the protective shell around the Walnut. So walnut is extremely helpful for empaths who struggle to create healthy boundaries.
Indigo Essences For Empaths and Healers
The two I found very beneficial were
Bubble from Chrystal Series. This basically helps give you a feeling of an energetic bubble from Environmental Stress. Today so many healers and empaths are spending a lot of time online or around Electromagnetic Frequencies that can be very harsh on our energetic field.
Software from Chrystal Series. This essence is supposed to filter out the heavy energies coming towards your energetic field, Now this was designed for babies but as someone who developed extreme sensitivity, especially severe noise sensitivity that would trigger seizures. I found this very helpful at supporting my nervous system and help me be less affected by other people’s wounding and distortions.
Others Indigo Essences that Empaths, HSP’s and Healers may find beneficial include
Pink 4 from the Pink Essences will help you find a deeper more stronger connection to self. This is particularly important if you are a healer, coach, or therapist who is supporting others.
Pink 5 from the Pink Essences which helps you connect to source energy. Many healers assume that they are always connecting to source energy but as an experienced healer of 30 years I know this is not always the case for even those who
As you can see there are many different types of flower essences and other types of essences available to choose from. Explore the different types of flower essences, I find the indigo essences are the easiest for many people to intuitively choose from.
Eileen a highly experienced, healer, therapist, coach with a Diploma in Flower Essences Healing helps empaths and healers live more of their life and soul purpose with ease. Eileen offers Inner Child Healing, Spiritual Business Coaching alongside her online Stress Coach Training School.
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