Essential Flower Essences For Empaths and Healers

Essential Flower Essences For Empaths and Healers

Essential Flower Essences For Empaths, Sensitives, and Healers. Learn the mental and emotional benefits of flower essences, Bach essences, and other types of essences around today.

What Are Flower Essences?

Flower Essences are part of the Essence Family. You can get all sorts of essences including Plant, Gem & Crystal Essences, Environmental Essences, even Geometrical Essences.

Flower Essences are flower extracts, that are known to be mentally, emotionally, and physically balancing. Flower essences originated in the 1930’s from the work of Dr. Bach, a Medical Doctor, and Homeopath. Dr. Bach was a strong believer that “the key to good health was by emotional harmony”.

Dr. Bach went onto establish the use of 38 different flower essences to support different emotions. Each essence was obtained from either a plant, flower, or tree.

Flower essences are normally extracted through two different processes that Dr. Bach used; The sun method is used for the more delicate flower which involves floating the flower heads in water directly in the sun for approx 3 hours. The boiling the plant method tends to be more for other flowers and woodland plants that tend to blossom in lower sunlight. Both processes extract the vibration of the flowers into the water, which after being filtered is mixed with equal parts of Brandy and then classed as a stock remedy.

Different Types Of Flower Essences Today

Today there are many different types and ranges of Flower Essences and Essences from a variety of things. While studying my Diploma in Flower Essences we explored the

  • Australian Bush Essences
  • Bach Flower Essences
  • Findhorn Flower Essences

Later on I came to explore and use different types of essences

  • Divine Harmony Essences
  • Indigo Essences – especially the crystal essences

I have also used personally other essences created or channeled by other therapists, these include Janine Thorpe and Sally Arthurs.

My Experience Using Flower Essences

I was first introduced to Flower Essences in the early ’90s by a retired Dr practising different holistic medicine approaches. At a time in my life where I was young and ill, dealing with the physical, mental and emotional challenges of chronic and rare medical challenges in my early twenties. Conditions and symptoms that mainstream medicine couldn’t treat or offer me any support.

During this period two of my family members were involved in a serious physical assault which was extremely traumatising to them both. The practitioner that I was attending recommended they both take Rock Rose. Rock Rose was useful at helping release the terror and trauma of such an experience. Now only one chose to take the remedy, the other didn’t. The interesting thing I noticed was one sister after this dealt with the trauma more healthily than the other.

Later in my life another therapist prescribed me some Bach Remedies for a very stressful time in my life. It was a situation where I was working for an organisation where I was being put in a very difficult situation. After taking the flower essences I was so surpised how much the essences didn’t just help me feel more resilient but helped me become more self-aware, make me realise why I was struggling so much more.

I then went on to study a Diploma in Flower Essence Healing at college and soo began to use Flower Essences and other Essences in my work as a healer, coach and Stress Counsellor. I was amazed at how effective it was for many clients suffering from extreme stress, Post Traumatic Stress, and Depression.

As someone who has always been extremely empathic and sensitive I found the Indigo Essences extremely beneficial at giving me a protective layer. This was particularly helpful for a few years after a Near Death Experience that left me very open spiritually and psychically. So much so that I was feeling others emotional and physical symptoms on a very exaggerated level.

Bach Essential Flower Essences For Empaths and Healers

These are some of my favourite Essential Bach Flower Essences

Centaury for the inability to say NO. Centaury is very useful for empaths and healers anyone else who struggle to be assertive, struggle to stand up for themself. The people pleasers, the over givers, those tend to put others first and struggle to say NO. For those with co-dependency traits.

Crab Apple carries the energy of purity, many healers and intuitive’s find it helpful to clean the energy of other people’s trauma or negative energy. Wounded healers and unruly empaths can too easily absorb or take on the trauma or suffering of their clients or those around them.

Oak is for the individual who tends to be very strong, capable, and self-reliant. But tend to work very hard ( classical workaholic) who tend to push their limits, work through challenges without taking time out, breaks, etc

Star Of Bethlehem is a very effective flower essence to help heal old trauma, abuse, loss, and grief. Because Empaths and Healers tend to attract more situations where people are sharing their trauma and suffering. This not only exposes them to other people’s pain and suffering but is more likely to trigger personal wounds, memories not addressed that are still held in the cellular body. So is very supportive during Inner Child Therapy.

Walnut is a powerful essence to support us with any sort of transition in life. But it is also extremely helpful as a protection against outside influences, think about the protective shell around the Walnut. So walnut is extremely helpful for empaths who struggle to create healthy boundaries.

Indigo Essences For Empaths and Healers

The two I found very beneficial were

Bubble from Chrystal Series. This basically helps give you a feeling of an energetic bubble from Environmental Stress. Today so many healers and empaths are spending a lot of time online or around Electromagnetic Frequencies that can be very harsh on our energetic field.

Software from Chrystal Series. This essence is supposed to filter out the heavy energies coming towards your energetic field, Now this was designed for babies but as someone who developed extreme sensitivity, especially severe noise sensitivity that would trigger seizures. I found this very helpful at supporting my nervous system and help me be less affected by other people’s wounding and distortions.

Others Indigo Essences that Empaths, HSP’s and Healers may find beneficial include

Pink 4 from the Pink Essences will help you find a deeper more stronger connection to self. This is particularly important if you are a healer, coach, or therapist who is supporting others.

Pink 2 from the Pink Essences which helps you connect with your healing team.

Pink 5 from the Pink Essences which helps you connect to source energy. Many healers assume that they are always connecting to source energy but as an experienced healer of 30 years I know this is not always the case for even those who

As you can see there are many different types of flower essences and other types of essences available to choose from. Explore the different types of flower essences, I find the indigo essences are the easiest for many people to intuitively choose from.

Eileen a highly experienced, healer, therapist, coach with a Diploma in Flower Essences Healing helps empaths and healers live more of their life and soul purpose with ease. Eileen offers Inner Child Healing, Spiritual Business Coaching alongside her online Stress Coach Training School.

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Healing The Inner Child – The Highly Sensitive Person

Healing The Inner Child – The Highly Sensitive Person

Why healing the inner child can support Highly Sensitive People and Empaths who struggle with their sensitivity.

Healing the inner child can be a very powerful way to address all sorts of forms of dis-ease, unhealthy beliefs, and conditioning. How we experience and see the world as a child often shapes how we show up as an adult. And this is no different for the highly sensitive child who can find the modern world a harsh place. Empaths and HSP’s struggle to thrive in life because in some ways they have struggled to survive their childhood.

Struggles Of The Empath And Highly Sensitive Person

No matter how healthy or unhealthy your childhood was many HSP’s and empaths struggle because of their level of sensitivity and awareness. Highly sensitive people are generally more sensitive to their own wounding and surroundings.  The highly sensitive empath takes that a bit further they will feel the emotional pain of others. And some of us also take on the energetic imprint or physical pain of others.

Every HSP and Empath is unique but like everyone in life, they will feel different levels of that pain, they will also have their own personal challenges and trauma. 

Healing The Inner Child - The Highly Sensitive Person And Empath by Inner Child Therapist - Eileen Burns

Inner Child Healing – The Highly Sensitive Child

 The highly sensitive child/person has such heightened awareness than those around them that they can see, hear, feel, and interpret things to a greater degree than most people couldn’t imagine. The HSP child will often be viewed as too sensitive, too weak, too childlike, irrational, naive …

These natural gifts and traits often trigger fear and misunderstanding in the parents, siblings, and caregivers around them which is projected onto the child. They are often taught that who they are at a core level is flawed, bad, wrong, not enough. Told to toughen up, be brave, be bold, shut down their emotions, act differently; basically not be their sacred self.

Many highly sensitive children are highly empathic, intuitive and even psychic. This again can trigger tremendous fear in those around them which the child senses.  So much so the child will shut down their natural traits, their natural state of being. That is why inner child work is highly recommended for empaths and the highly sensitive person.

Increased Empowerment From Healing The Inner Child

So many highly sensitive people including highly sensitive children often don’t know where they fit in. This can create a great degree of inner conflict especially when we are living in a very noisy, materialistic society. A culture that is often embedded with self-preservation and self-success than any on compassion and deep humanity for others around us. 

Inner Child work can be extremely healing for the HSP who struggles to honour themself and their sensitivity. It is empowering for the empath or HSP who can’t say no and struggles with boundaries. For those who too easily take on other people’s drama or pain.

In my one to one sessions and inner child programs for sensitives and empaths. I address different aspects of the inner child. Working on the wounded child, abandoned child, the eternal child and the more positive aspects of the inner child. It is extremely healing and empowering to address underlying triggers where you felt traumatised, abandoned or disempowered. Those experiences where we have shut down mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

Unlock Your Gifts From Healing The Inner Child

Clients and therapists experience many benefits and insights from inner child work. Even simply listening to inner child healing guided meditations that have been created by someone qualified to do. Because so many HSP’s haven’t learned to own and harness their sensitive gifts in a positive way. You may not recognise that some of your physical symptoms are just signs your gifts are trying to show up. Or maybe you need to start owning your power, your sovereignty.

Maybe you need to say NO? Stop allowing others to take advantage, control, or impose their beliefs or wants onto you. Maybe you need to put yourself first?  So many Empaths and HSP’s are overgivers, the wounded healer, victim, martyr, or rescuer.

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How To Develop Your Intuition

How To Develop Your Intuition

Learn How To Develop Your Intuition For Life And Business. Learn why intuition is such an underdeveloped tool that more and more of us should be learning how to master.

What Is Intuition?

Intuition is an inner knowing about something, someone without any analytical information or rational reasoning. Many would regard Intuition as a gut feeling or hunch.

Some of you like me, maybe more naturally intuitive while others have spent so much time giving priority to the more logical or fearful mind, that you need to learn how to develop your intuition. No matter how intuitive you are or not, intuition is something that can always be developed even more.

Why Intuition Is A Powerful Tool

Sadly most of us live in a world that is built on illusion and fakery. We just need to look around at social media, news, politics, government, even medicine. To see how much we are fed a narrative that suits someone’s agenda, someone else’s perceptions not necessary, truth, fact, or fiction. Every day someone is trying to sell you a product or course that doesn’t do what it claims on the packet. Every day someone is being prescribed something that does more harm than healing. Every day we are exposed to other people’s truth or perception, not necessarily our truth.

When you develop your intuition to a certain level, it is much easier to discern when something is not quite what it appears to be. It can help protect you from danger, from making big and costly mistakes. My intuition has saved me from lots of negative situations and one extremely potentially dark and dangerous situation. Your intuition is a powerful tool when you learn to master it.

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Intuition And Spiritual Discernment

Strong intuition can help you become more spiritually discerning, something so important in life and in a spiritual business. Spiritual Discernment is extremely important if you are a spiritual teacher, healer, or coach. Where clients or students are looking to you for support or guidance.

The more you develop your intuition the easier it is to navigate what is right and wrong for you. I believe in many ways intuition is a direct connection to god, your higher self, or your spiritual helpers e.g. your Guardian Angel. So the more you cultivate a connection with your inner self, the stronger that connection becomes.

But sadly most people today spend so much time in their head or on external distractions they have lost their inner connection. That is why so many people even highly experienced intuitive’s, healers, coaches, and therapists, give their power away every day to other teachers, especially celebrity Spiritual Teachers or Psychics. Totally believe and invest in what someone else says without using any Spiritual Discernment.

It is great to explore and learn from other teachers but NEVER give your power away believing they have all the answers. I see so many on the spiritual path idolizing others to a very unhealthy degree. Remember we are all having a human experience, some yes maybe more awakened, more aware, have more wisdom in certain areas. But sometimes they aren’t. Develop your own intuition so you can be more self-responsible and independent.

“I define intuition as the subtle knowing without ever having any idea why you know it,” Sophy Burnham, bestselling author of The Art of Intuition

Learn How To Develop Your Intuition

LOOSEN YOUR DISTRACTIONS

The more you can loosen those distractions, that you use to avoid facing what your feeling or even seeing. You will get into a more being state than an avoidance or resistance state. Just starting to recognise those distractions and avoidance tactics is the first thing. How many times in a day do you spend checking your phone, checking your emails, Facebook, watching TV, instead of just being. These are the type of things we all do to keep the mind distracted and busy. We now give so much power to the mind that we neglect our other senses. When you start reducing and loosening those distractions you will find it much easier to develop your intuition and to notice those signs and synchronicities.

MEDITATE DAILY

The ability to meditate helps loosen those attachments, those distractions that can stop you from developing your intuition. Meditation helps you access stillness and calm, deeper connection with the self. Meditation naturally helps you have more pauses and presence between your thoughts. It helps you become more of the observer, the witness to everything within and around you. I believe more traditional forms of meditation are the most powerful way to access this. Now even though I teach traditional and modern forms of meditation and Guided Meditations ( Guided Imagery Meditations) guided in my work As a meditation teacher for 20 years, I believe learning how to meditate is a far more effective way to develop your intuition from a clearer mind. Saying that as a healer, Guided Meditations with certain types of healing work can be a powerful way to help unlock those untapped or suppressed gifts. One of the reasons I created this Free Healing Guided Meditation – Awaken Your Soul.

GET GROUNDED

Learn To Ground More: The more grounded you become, the more solid and stronger, and clearer your intuitive messages will come through. You can be highly evolved spiritually and intuitive but if you are not fully earthed and grounded, it is very easy to become vulnerable to disinformation from negative sources, entities, the ego, your own or others trauma and or distortions.

OUT OF YOUR HEAD

The more you learn how to get out of the monkey mind you will get out of your own way. The more you will naturally become more attuned into yourself more holistically and spiritually. In the twenty-first century, we have allowed in many ways our mind to be a slave to the system, a slave to the media, a slave to other people’s rules, beliefs, and systems. The more you can go inside, become more connected to your body, more connected to all your senses, you will naturally develop your intuition and your unique clairvoyant gifts. Those very natural spiritual gifts, gifts that God gave us.

LEARN TO RELAX

The more you can relax, be calm, the stronger those intuitive nudges and signs will come through. But sadly today most people don’t know how to relax or switch off, as I already mentioned they are too distracted, too busy. That is why I teach therapists, healers, and coaches to become Relaxation Therapists and Teachers. It is much harder to help empower someone in their life, help them access their inner compass if they are constantly anxious or stressed. For them to be able to discern between their intuition or what is F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real. So learn how to switch off.

GET CREATIVE

Creativity is the art of inventing or creating something new, it requires inspiration that comes from a level of spontaneity that is intuitive. Creativity and Intuition are very right-brain processes, that help expand and nurture each other. “Intuition and creativity are fundamentally, interdependent and interchangeable. They reflect the highest forms of applicable intelligence for any and every ability.”  Intuition as the Basis for Creativity, C Woolf

Creativity helps us expand perceived limitations, think and be out of the box, all extremely helpful in being able to sense beyond what we can see, feel and hear on the physical level.

IDENTIFY YOUR STRONGEST CLAIR GIFTS

When you can identify your strongest clair gift and start nurturing it, you will often find you will naturally develop other clair gifts, other intuitive gifts. The most common intuitive and Clair Gifts are Clairvoyance, Claircognisance, Clairsentient, Clairaudient, Clairgustance, Clairailence. In my Develop Your Intuition Course I include a variety of exercises and tools to identify your strongest clair gifts and then how to start developing and expanding those gifts. There are so many ways you can develop those gifts,

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Learn To Heal Your Magical Child

Learn To Heal Your Magical Child

Heal Your Magical Child– Your Inner Magician Archetype and Inner Wounded Child. Learn why healing your inner alchemist and magician archetype can help you in your life, work, and spiritual business.

As a therapist who has been a huge fan of Archetypal and Inner Child Healing and Therapy for well over 25 years, I know how powerful healing your magical child is. Especially as a healer and coach who helps many magician alchemist archetypes with their business. I am very familiar with the beautiful light and shadow aspects of the magical child. The powerful gifts of the alchemist and magician But equally the common sabotaging patterns when the Alchemist is coming from a state of fear, anxiety, trauma, lack, or rejection.

I see everyday examples of the wounded magical child in so many wounded healers, coaches, intuitive’s, and spiritual teachers. Just like I have been working on those patterns in my own life for many years. Also as a highly empathic sensitive, I see how many unruly empaths are so disconnected from their magical child. Because they are so afraid of their gifts, gifts they have often not really learned how to harness.

The reality is when you can really tap into and heal not just your inner child but your magical child, you can really start to make big shifts, Big shifts in recognising your own power, owning and honouring your gifts, life, and soul purpose.

But Inner Child Therapy just like any form of deep soul and trauma work should always be done by someone who has the right skill set. Make sure you choose a therapist or healer who understands and is qualified and experienced to work at deep soul level and with trauma. Unfortunately I have witnessed and been on the other side of Inner Child work by healers who hadn’t a clue what they were doing. Who had no understanding or experience of working with trauma, no understanding of the psychological damage they can do when they don’t approach Inner Child Healing in a safe effective therapeutic way.

Building Connection With Your Magical Child

With any type of Inner Child work it is important that the initial connection with the inner child is built on trust. Sometimes especially in those who have suffered a lot of trauma, that connection takes patience and time. Without that initial connection and trust, you will struggle to not just make life-long shifts but you can actually push the inner child into more hiding.

So when trying to heal your Magical Child make sure you understand that in many ways you are dealing with your inner child’s view of their world, their story.

How To Connect With Your Your Magical Child

Get Quiet:

You won’t find your inner magical child in busyness or chaos. It is so important to take time to switch off from distractions, relax and generally be in the moment. Like any child your inner child can only be heard properly when you take time to be quiet.

Look For Magic And Miracles:

Young children tend to see the magic and awe in everything around them. Their untainted innocence and sense of wonder helps them see the beauty and magic of life and every living creature. They fully immerse themself in so many things we as adults don’t notice or take for granted. So start noticing the magic, the miracles that are here every single day.

Make Time For Fun And Play:

Too much work doesn’t just make jack a boring boy it makes him an unhealthy and unhappy boy. Make a list of all the fun things you enjoyed as a child and start bringing them into your daily and weekly life. Don’t let any distortive thoughts around age, or what you should and shouldn’t do stop you from having some inner child fun. To stay happy and healthy build a strong connection with your eternal child your playful child. Make time for hobbies, things you enjoy doing even those things you love to do but aren’t very good at, and even those things that get very very messy.

Honour Your Magical Child:

When you honour the innocent and magical aspects of your core, you honour your greatest potential and soul desires. The greatest abuse to the Magical Child, or the Innocent Child is not owning, valuing or honouring your gifts. Stop being ashamed or fearful of your gifts. But also honour them enough to nurture them and develop them with the right help. Not fully honouring or developing them or mastering them can lead to all sorts of problems. Think of the devastation left behind by the impatient sorcerer’s apprentice and you get the ideal. Many wounded magicians end up being more attracted to dark and illusion than light and pureness without even realising it.

Unlock Your Inner Alchemist:

The alchemist and magician archetypal traits love to experiment with new ideas, concepts, blends, and remedies. Anything that will support create change and shifts. That is why many magician archetypes become aromatherapists, herbalists, homeopaths, flower essence practitioners. Others become mindset practitioners, hypnotherapists, life coaches, energy and spiritual healers. Or are attracted to many of these tools in their work, my inner alchemist inspired me to study many of these things.

Develop Discernment and Wisdom:

Part of the Magical Child’s journey is about treading the line between dark and light so they can learn how to transform from the dark. So it is very much about developing discernment and wisdom which too often comes from experience than just insight. The deeply wounded Magician and Alchemist Archetype that has been more abused than empowered is easily seduced by power, financial, or celebrity success at any cost. The healed and wise Master Magician has developed discernment and wisdom. They recognise that all that glitters is not gold, and that the greatest more precious gold comes from a pure heart and soul.

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Learn How To Follow Your Own Truth

Learn How To Follow Your Own Truth

What does following your own truth actually mean? And why can owning your truth be hard at times especially when you are highly empathic or sensitive.

Living Your Truth

Well to live your truth is about living a life full of authenticity and openness. To me it is also one that is guided by spiritual guidance. But why do so many of us live most of our lives trying to live up to other people’s expectations or definitions of truth.

As a highly sensitive empath I was a big people pleaser who struggled to own my truth. I have spent most of my life enmeshed in other peoples emotions I struggled to know my own. I’ve struggled to own and express my truth because of a distorted perception that owning my truth would hurt someone else

Following Your Own Truth

For me following your truth has to start by recognising and owning what is true to you, no one else. From infanthood, we are exposed to other people’s beliefs, conditioning, values, but that doesn’t mean they are our truth. Other people’s perception of truth is based on their beliefs, personal experiences, and what feels true for them.

Every single one of us is uniquely different from our own unique soul’s essence. That essence is part of a bigger picture, the jigsaw of life. And to do that in the healthiest authentic way we need to be able to follow what is true in our heart. In many ways I mean to follow our spiritual truth, not our egoic truth. So it is about getting out of our head, our fear, and into the heart and soul.

Identifying Your Truth When Your Highly Empathic

We are all exposed to other people’s beliefs and ideologies on a daily basis. But at a core level your soul craves the need to follow your own path. Your spirit wants to live a life that is based on your integral values, your inner compass.

One thing I was taught early on from my father was to trust my intuition. But to be honest being a bit of an unruly empath my energy can easily be dominated by much stronger personalities or their views. Like many empaths I am very easily entangled by the emotional pain and needs of others. So I have to identify, own and step into my truth, know what is is my energy and what is not.

Moving Into What Is True For You

Believe me moving into your own truth isn’t easy if you have strong characters or strong views around you. But finding your truth is so important when trying to live a more healthy authentic life. If you don’t it is too easy to be living everyone else’s truth rather than your own.

Why It Is Easy To Lose Your Truth

So many people struggle to know their truth never mind follow their truth. It’s easy to lose yourself, lose your truth, your voice in relationships, within family dynamics or at work. In jobs and careers where you have to live by other people’s policies, rules, core ethics, and values it is easy to lose or forget your truth. Many work environment actually encourage suppression of truth and core values so much so you barely recognise yourself

This is especially true for those of you who are highly empathic with unhealthy boundaries. But believe me I know if you don’t get behind your truth, your inner guidance, you lose you. It can lead to anxiety, stress become you have moved out of alignment with yourself.

Of course, on a spiritual level, everyone’s truth is just a story, just a perception. But to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves and to have direction we need to know ourselves. We need to know what feels right and fits with our values and what doesn’t. Suppressing or denying what feels true for you, can lead to all sorts of internal chaos, confusion even dis-ease. So start owning your truth today.

How To Follow Your Own Truth Live Your Truth if you are a highly empathic or sensitive soul

How To Start Owning What is True To You

When you start owning your truth it can be very freeing, expressing it can bring up very strong fear. Learning how to express that truth in a clear and concise way can take time especially if you struggle with assertiveness. Building more clear and honest communication between you and others can take a lot of courage, self-compassion and patience.

Top Tips To Start Owning And Expressing Your Truth

Learn how to differentiate your energy and emotions from someone else’s

Take moments to stop and get out of your head, be more in the moment and connect with the self, meditation will help.

Develop more confidence in your own inner navigation system, your intuition.
Start loving and honouring yourself more, recognise your truth is just as important as someone else’s.
If need be put yourself in a ball of light that helps shield you from other people’s overpowering opinions.

Be kind be more compassionate with yourself this can be new territory or behaviour for many of you

When you are expressing your own truth owning it by starting with the world “I” for example I feel, I see the situation this way...

Heal your inner child, the shadow elements of the wounded child and eternal child that is stopping you from maturing into the adult you.

Inspirational Quotes About Living Your Truth

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” Buddha

I am here to serve. I am here to inspire. I am here to love. I am here to live my truth.” Deepak Chopra

“Tune into your truth. Live it. Breath it. Beam it.” Emma Kate

“Listen to your own truth.” Ram Dass

“As a matter of honor, one man owes it to another to manifest the truth.” ~ Thomas Aquinas

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10 Ways To STOP Giving Your Power Away

10 Ways To STOP Giving Your Power Away

How To STOP Giving Your Power Away Today

How to stop giving your power away especially when you are highly empathic or highly sensitive? We are so enmeshed in other people’s needs, other people’s pain, and emotional needs. We constantly feed them instead of ourselves, we become the victim.

Stop Giving Your Power Away To Your Loved One’s

It is so easy to hand over our power to your loved ones,  your partner, your family, your friends, even colleagues without realising it. We do this by allowing others to control, manipulate, or push us into choices that are not ours and even worse not in our best interest. These situations will often exhaust us, deplete us, diminish, and can even devalue our sense of self, self-worth, and self-esteem.

So many of us give our power away to our fears, distorted beliefs our addictions. We constantly dis-empower, dis-honour, and dis-respect ourselves on a daily basis.

Why? Because we have a very distorted perception of ourselves and the world around us. So we end up creating life-long unhealthy patterns that sabotage our health and happiness on a daily basis. Ironically one of the biggest forms of dis-empowerment is the way we give control over our health to other people.

Are You Giving Your Power Away To Your Doctor Or Therapist?

We often assume that those who help support us with our health and wellbeing, even our spirituality have our best interests at heart. But every time you hand over decisions of your body, mind, emotions, and or spirit to another person without checking in if this feels right for you, you may well opening yourself up to an element of dis-empowerment.

Look at the culture in the west of how much we expect our Dr to heal, fix, or treat health conditions or symptoms caused by unhealthy lifestyle choices. Another example of giving your power away and not taking responsibility for our own wellbeing. We live in a world wherein many ways we are conditioned to give our power and decision-making away to someone else, that is not only disempowering but potentially damaging on so many levels.

Are You Giving Your Power Away To Psychics, Mediums, Or Horoscope Predictions?

Or too much power over to a Coach, Healer, or Spiritual Teacher?

Stop, take time to get centered, and aware of where you are handing your power or leaking energy?

As healers, we are here to help, sometimes guide or teach you. But you should never give your power away or over to us. We are here to help empower you,  we are here to help hold a space of healing, even challenge, question and yes sometimes trigger you?  In-fact in some ways, we are not here to be liked even though we are here to do right by you.

But sadly there can be a misuse of power and harmful practice in coaching, healing, and spiritual teaching.  Harmful practice in the holistic therapy industry nearly cost me my eye and another cost me serious liver toxicity.  I was young, naive, vulnerable, and trusted the wrong therapists.

Stop giving your life away to other people.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Unfortunately today we live in a society where are at our core we feel we are not enough. This feeling of lack of not enough triggers a deep need in many people to have more, be more to such an extent they will do almost anything to get more.

This lack will even try to destroy or dis-empower others in their struggle to appear more special,  more spiritual, more awakened, more successful.

Look at the generation we are living in, one where you can literally buy anything at the press of a button. One of the most concerning is the ability to get a certificate or diploma in something in over a few days to a few weeks in something that would previously take a year or two.

Every day individuals are naively giving their power and lots of hard-earned cash away to anyone or anyone who promises them something faster, easier;  instant transformation, instant success.

So it is important than ever to become more mindful of your daily interactions.

It is so important to start listening to your inner guidance your own intuition, your own spiritual connection.

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Is That Situation Or Person Enabling You Or Disabling You?

We are all human and we are all evolving but it is important to recognise when we are not being supported or empowered when we are being disempowered or controlled.

Being a highly sensitive empath for as long as I can remember.  I only began to take a lot of my power back after a  spiritual experience in intensive care where I was fighting for my life. And a few years later where I saw a visual energetic imprint of all these people’s opinions about the cause of my rare medical challenges. In many ways, it was so enlightening as I could see over 45 years’ worth of different medical professionals’ opinions, different healers, therapists, even family members, and friends’ opinions. A lot of other people’s beliefs that didn’t belong to me but which on some level I had taken into my energetic field.

Like so many people, so many empaths I didn’t recognise how much of my power I was giving away. I was a full-time people pleaser who gave my power away daily and didn’t even recognise it.

10 Ways To STOP Giving Your Power Away?

 

  • You get more grounded and centered. When you are more earthed, stable, and in your own body and energetic field. You are less likely to be dominated or manipulated by others’ energy or opinions. This is extremely important for empaths and sensitives who struggle with energetic boundaries.
  • Learn to meditate, make meditation an important daily practice. Meditation helps’ you connect with your inner wisdom and recognise what is right for you.
  • Stop making assumptions about other areas of skills, expertise, or wisdom. Just because they appear to be, suggest or even state never means they actually are. Learn the art of discernment. We often give our power away by simply assuming someone has more expertise, knowledge, and wisdom in a particular area. Do your homework
  • Take self-responsibility for your actions and in-actions, heal your inner child wounds. Don’t rely on others to fix, heal, sort, or solve situations. Yes, we all need a little bit of help at times.  But if you need to learn a particular skill, need help to be for example to be more assertive, more confident in doing so. Do not expect others to do this for you.
  • Do not be scared to ask specific questions if you are unsure about a situation. For example, ask a Dr or therapist why they suggest or think this is the best form of therapy. Do not be shy about finding out more about someone’s level of expertise, testimonials of any claims made.
  • Be clear in your communication, what you need, what you believe, how you feel.
  • Don’t let someone rush you into a decision you are unsure about. It is okay to say I am unsure about this, I need time to think about it.
  • Set healthy boundaries as part of your daily routine and your mindset. Especially when you are highly empathic or sensitive, more anxious, stressed, or vulnerable.
  • Be mindful of unhealthy emotional traits, unhealthy thinking patterns. Where in your life are you an over pleaser, over giver, have unfound guilt, the wounded healer…?
  • Heal your inner child– heal those old distorted belief’s that entrap you into the people pleaser, the over giver, the over nurturer.  Heal and teach the child who never learned about boundaries, who never learned to self-care.

As Marianne Williamson states in A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles” – 

  “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

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Why Empaths Struggle With Self-Care And Self-Love

Why Empaths Struggle With Self-Care And Self-Love

Why Empaths Struggle With Self-Care, Struggle With Self-Love, And Setting  Healthy Boundaries? 
Why do so many empaths struggle with overwhelm, exhaustion, and burn-out because so many empaths tend to over give and attract life’s over takers? Sadly empaths are also more likely to attract those with quite strong narcissistic traits.
Empaths often struggle to say NO, finding it difficult to create and maintain healthy boundaries which can lead to all sorts of life, work, and business challenges.
You see, like most people, empaths struggle with self-love but empaths also have huge issues around self-care. With their strong tendencies towards over-caring, over-giving, putting other’s needs before their own that they are more likely to suffer from exhaustion, stress, and burnout. Especially when so many of you have strong archetypal traits of the martyr, fixer, healer, nurturer, rescuer.

Why Do Empaths Struggle With Self-Love And Self-Care - Eileen Burns, Stress Therapist and

Why Empaths Struggle With Over Giving?

Empaths struggle with over-giving and caring because most empaths are in some way energetically aware and often immersed in the energy, pain, and drama of the people and things around them. An empath will often find it difficult to differentiate their own needs, their own energy field from the energy field, and the emotions of others.

Common Empathic Traits

An empath will be very aware of other people’s emotions and needs in-fact they will often absorb another person’s feelings and or pain

Empaths often need lots of time out, empaths are so sensitive to the energy and people around them they need lots of time out.

Empaths are often highly sensitive so are more sensitive to energy; not just people but their surroundings, places, items, the world, animals…

A highly empathic person will be highly intuitive and psychic. These important skills help keep the empath and highly sensitive empath healthy and happy. The empathic child will often bring these gifts through very clearly but if those around don’t understand and support the child’s gifts, the child will often feel confused, ashamed and fearful which often leaves to an emotional and or energetic shut-down.

Empaths can be very misunderstood like HSP’s they can be categorised as too weak, too sensitive, strange, or weird because of their heightened awareness of the un-known, the un-seen.

Empaths very easily lose their identity in relationships so can often avoid close or intimate relationship to protect themselves. They can find it extremely challenging to deal with controlling relationships, parents, work colleagues.

A lot of empaths are introverted but for those with more extroverted tendencies, it is often important for them to spend time alone or resting.

Many empaths end up with burn-out or other types of chronic health challenges due to poor management of their gifts. Especially lack of boundaries, over-attachment to being the carer, supporter, helper, healer, nurturer. Most wounded healers are empaths.

Many empaths don’t just feel and absorb people’s emotional pain but physical pain.

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How To Heal The Empaths Struggle

Become More Grounded  – Learn how to get fully centered, grounded, and in their body. Spend more time in nature, away from the biz.  Unplug more from EMF’S and technology

Be More In The Moment –  Start to take one step, one moment at a time,  be less in the future, the past, or in the what if’s. Don’t let the monkey mind run or ruin your world.

Meditate –  Start meditating daily. Meditation helps you not only be in the moment, be more grounded and centered but it increases self-awareness. It will help you become more of a witness when you are giving your energy or power away to others. Join my Online Meditation Class.

Heal Your Inner Child Inner child work is a powerful way to heal incidents in your life’s timeline where you took on unhealthy thought patterns, trauma, suppressed emotion that is causing blockages in your health and wellbeing.

Are you ready to turn your empathic gifts into your biggest strength?

Are you ready to heal your empathic imbalances from your Inner Child?

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Empaths When Everyone Wants A Piece Of You

Empaths When Everyone Wants A Piece Of You

One of the biggest challenges many empaths have is they can often feel energetically that everyone wants a piece of them. And as Dr. Elaine Aaron and Dr. Northrup suggests there is a lot more people who think they are empaths than they actually are. You may have empathic traits but that doesn’t mean you are an empath. So many many people struggle to understand the unique challenges empaths face.

Especially if you are the type of empath who automatically wants to help fix, heal, nurture, care, or support anyone who you think needs it. Because unconsciously you absorb their pain while they feed off and deplete your energy. This can be an unhealthy cycle many empaths struggle to break. Because consciously never mind unconsciously empaths are so used to being of service. They are so compassionate being in-tune with other people’s pain,  so used to absorbing all sorts of energy around them. That saying no and having boundaries can feel as if it goes against your core essence.

The Empaths Need To Learn How To Say NO

As an empath and/or sensitive you have to be able to say no, you need to learn how to have really really strong boundaries. You have to be energetically aware when others are trying to push their agenda and needs onto you. At a cost to you. You are the only person who knows what you can give to others healthily and what you can’t, something I still work on. And yes for most empaths boundaries is not something that comes easily.

Why Empaths Attract The Needy, The Narcissists

So many empaths attract the needy, the narcissists, and the energy vampires.  If we are not fully in our body or mindful don’t it is easy not to recognise when we are being sucked dry energetically by another person until after the event. So many of us have spent most of our life enmeshed in other people’s drama, energy, and pain that we genuinely don’t recognise our own needs or feelings in the situation.

So energetic and boundary awareness is something we seriously need to work on.  Anyone who struggles with energetic boundaries can also be more easily swayed by other people’s ideas, thoughts because of the dis-entanglement of energetic thought patterns.

 If you were discouraged from standing up for your own needs as a child or were silenced in some way.  Lack of assertiveness and boundaries has to be addressed alongside a deep recognition that your needs are as important as others. Inner Child work can really help with this challenge because these beliefs and conditioning were formed in childhood.

As a highly sensitive caring empath for as long as I can remember. I attracted many people and situations in my personal and business life that didn’t serve me. Why? Because I am a natural over giver, someone who for most of my life has been an energetic sponge.

empaths when everyone wants a piece of you - coach for empaths and HSP's Eileen Burns

 When Everyone Wants A Piece Of You At Work

On one hand, it can extremely positive when you have skills and gifts people feel they want or need. But only when your gifts are being equally valued, when you are receiving what you need in exchange for those gifts. And when you can actually balance your time and energy efficiently in a healthy and balanced way.

But so many empaths in businesses not only undervalue their worth but because they come from a place of service, their business can get easily get confused by the structure and model of a charity rather than a business.  Often letting their empathic nature get in the way of vital business decisions. Empaths too easily attract the freebie seekers, the energy exchangers, even the manipulators.

Most people would be very surprised or may be shocked by how many emails and Facebook messages I get from people in a week expecting something for free. Now in many ways I love to help I am one of life’s nurturers and over givers. But I live on my own, I am self-employed part-time and have rare and chronic health challenges that impact my daily living and work great. So that comes with even more challenges. I get far easily depleted than most of the people around me. And can take far less clients than other coaches and therapists, I know.

I need to remind myself daily that I need to be served to serve, something that Kyle Gray talks about. When everyone wants a piece of you for free, in-fact expects a piece of you for free, that is something that has to be addressed. And something like you I need to address no matter how challenging it can be.

If you have been a people pleaser most of your life, it can be harder to say NO than the person asking will ever realise.

Now I  have run quite a few free Facebook groups in the past but I closed them down because I was inundated by so many personal messages from people who assumed I should give my time, energy, wisdom, and even courses for free. Despite already offering a wide range of resources for free blogs, podcasts, free self-study, and live courses. And what was even more surprising was from a group who were supposed to be empaths and highly sensitive people.

Empaths Tips – What You Can Do

  1. Develop Self Awareness – when we develop more awareness of the self and our energy we can become more detached from the drama and projections of others. We are less likely to be triggered by our empathic vulnerabilities. One of the easiest ways to do that is to learn effective meditation techniques.  Check out my 5 Minute Meditation a powerful meditation tool
  2. Know Your Needs Are Your Priority – it is vital you work on recognising you are just as important as those around you. You need to be able to take care of your needs before you help anyone else.
  3. Step Back Energetically – consciously step away from their energy. If you have to imagine you are removing that person from your energy field or unhooking them, do so.  Most people have no awareness they are hooking in on or taking from someone energetically. They are just like everyone else on the planet unconsciously trying to get a need filled.
  4. Take Time Out – take plenty of time to unplug from everything especially others’ energy fields. So you energetically get back into your own body. Even moving yourself to another room or outside, space from the situation for a few minutes can help.
  5. Don’t Over Think It – don’t allow the ruminating mind to take over. Oh, I should be helping them…it’s a shame…
  6. Don’t Take On Their Manipulation – don’t allow someone else’s victimhood or manipulation to hook you into their mess. This is simply a subtle form of control, that people use to get what they want out of a situation.
  7. Access Your Own Inner Wisdom – allow your own inner guidance to make the right decisions again don’t let others sway your decisions. As a very highly sensitive empath and intuitive who has worked with energy for over 25 years. I often have a deep sense of knowing or feel others’ energetic motives which others are unaware of. When I allow others views to cloud my own guidance it usually doesn’t serve me.
  8. Heal Your Inner Child – heal the childhood experiences that have had you believe you have to fix, nurture, care, support, heal others. Heal the inner child that struggles or doesn’t know how to set energetic boundaries

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Why Every HSP Should Learn How To Meditate

Why Every HSP Should Learn How To Meditate

Why Every HSP Highly Sensitive Person Should Learn How To Meditate. Why meditation helps the Highly Sensitive Person or Empath become more mentally and emotionally resilient in their life and business.

Daily Challenges Of The HSP Highly Sensitive Person

I believe everyone should learn how to meditate but if you are an empath or HSP I believe meditation is a must. Why? Because if you are an HSP you are more sensitive to the energy and stress of modern-day living. The HSP has a highly sensitive sensory system, basically a more finely tuned nervous system than most people. This gives the HSP a lot more awareness and receptivity to the world around them. But this also makes HSP’s less resilient in some ways more easily overstimulated.

Reasons Why The HSP Highly Sensitive People Should Meditate

The highly sensitive person is often more easily wounded. The HSP Empath is often more scattered in their energy. In many ways, they are often not fully in their energetic body. That is why many highly sensitive empaths are often ungrounded and uncentred. Why so many highly sensitive’s and empaths struggle mentally, physically, and or emotionally in their day-to-day life.

Highly Sensitive Empaths are like energy sponges. So they need to need to learn how to become more centered, grounded, and energetically aware. Meditation naturally helps increase awareness and presence. Meditation can also help us become more grounded and centered.

HSP Should Learn How To Meditate

Why Every HSP Should Meditate Daily

Daily Meditation is so good for your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing

Regular meditative practice is known to lower anxiety and stress levels.

It helps you access a deep space of stillness and peace, so meditation often increases clarity and confidence

We know meditation helps you access much clearer intuition and inner guidance.

Meditation allows you to heal mentally, physically, and emotionally

My Own Meditation Journey As A HSP And Empath

I began meditating over 28 years ago, I tried, tested, and studied various styles and teachings of meditation. As someone with very rare medical challenges that mainstream medicine couldn’t treat, I had to find skills that would make me more physically, mentally, and emotionally resilient. Oh, how I thank god that I found meditation. This was a skill that helped me become so mentally resilient. Meditation helped me deal with so many tremendous and long-term challenges with strength and peace.

One of my earliest teachings of meditation was to a class of rather troublesome young men.  I knew teaching meditation to a class of rather rowdy you men might not be a walk in the park. So I went searching for a style of meditation that might accommodate their particular needs.  I found a technique that I adapted in which became My 5 Minute Meditation. In-fact this became the most popular meditation tool I ever taught. Loved by not just teenagers, but stressed-out executives, carers, healers, highly sensitive people, and empaths.

Finding The Right Type Of Meditation To Start With

When you find the right type of meditation tool for you, you will build your meditation practice up much stronger. If you have a very busy, demanding lifestyle the 5 Minute Meditation is a great starter tool. But I would still encourage you to practice a more traditional style of meditation into your routine. This form of meditation will help you transcend into living more of your life from a place of meditation.

The problem today is there is a lot of myths and misunderstanding around meditation. Many people give up too quickly on their meditation practice because of a misunderstanding of what meditating actually is. 

Beginners Meditation Technique For The Anxious HSP

If you are an HSP who struggles with chronic anxiety and stress I would encourage you to try out a very short style of meditation like my less than 5 Minute Meditation which is great for beginners. This particular technique is really useful for chronic anxiety and even trauma sufferers, so it’s much more gentle than other forms of meditation.

The Right Type Of Meditation Teacher If You Are  Highly Sensitive

My advice would be to choose a meditation teacher wisely, find out more about them, years of experience, training, and styles of meditation they teach. If you’re an Empath or HSP you may want to book a one-to-one session with a meditation teacher before attending a class or start with some simple meditation at home. Also, check-in that the meditation teacher actually teaches you how to meditate they are not just practicing or guiding you through guided meditations more like guided visualisations, this is often something very different.

Why Meditation Supports The HSP

Anxiety and emotional wounding is a big problem for the HSP, Meditation helps loosen those challenges as it helps us detach from that wounding. When we meditate we connect with the self, an aspect of us that never changes. This helps nurture a healthy anchor, a stronger connection with where magic and stillness transcends everything else.

 

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Why Highly Sensitive Coaches Struggle To Make Money

Why Highly Sensitive Coaches Struggle To Make Money

Why Highly Sensitive Coaches Struggle Financially In Their Business

One of the biggest challenges many highly sensitive coaches, therapists and healers have is they have all sorts of struggles with financial abundance. They can have all sorts of challenges in their business and their life because of this. I know being a self-employed highly sensitive empath, coach and healer for over 18 years.

Main Motivation Of The Highly Sensitive Coach

The highly sensitive person or empaths driving motivation can appear in many ways to be related to the top of maslows hierachy needs instead of the bottom.  The highly sensitive coach is often not driven by the same money goals that most other coaches are. Their client, work and financial relationship is often far more complex.

What I witnessed as both a coach/trainer and client to many coaches and therapists.  In-fact even as a client to many coaches and healers over a 25 year period. Was that many of the most gifted and qualified coaches/ therapists were highly empathic and HSP. They were also are the most likley to under charge in comparison to some of the most awful coaches and healers who charged premium prices.

So let’s look more deeply at why the HSP Coach tends to struggle with financial abundance

The Success Struggles Of The Highly Sensitive Coach

Highly Sensitive Coaches are motivated by self-actualization in many ways this takes dominance. They are very much more focused on the spiritual self.

Highly Empathic Coaches can be so aware or entangled up with other’s pain they just want to be of service, they forget they are actually running a business.

The Highly Sensitive And Empathic Coach is often more dominated by their altruistic  traits so not driven by money or financial success.

The Highly Sensitive Coach often resists the business, marketing and technical aspect of their business. Many Empathic or HSP Coaches fear the business and marketing part of the business. This can cause them great distress and anxiety.

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How You Can Start Healing Your Money And Abundance Struggles

Get More Grounded

Traditional based Meditation Techniques and grounding strategies including spending time in nature help support and heal the root chakra. It is important you address root level challenges, conditioning, and beliefs that need to be addressed.

Be More Open To Receiving

Often life’s over givers, carers, healers, therapists and empathic coaches come from such a place of lack of over-giving, they have forgotten how to receive. Don’t get caught up in how the universe gives/provides, trust, and be open to receiving the help and support in whatever shape it comes. Focus on gratitude daily this will increase your vibration.

Heal Your Wounds

If you are highly empathic or highly sensitive and affected deeply by other people’s energy. Heal your own wounds, heal your own issues by healing your inner child. Being aware of other’s pain and taking others’ pain are two very different things. Many coaches and healers can go into this type of work because of their own life challenges which are still being healed. This can take time but it is vital you address them.

Own Your Sensitive Gifts

Own your uniqueness, your spark of wonder, your specific gifts you are here to share with your clients. So many highly sensitive coaches doubt their own abilities, stop focusing on what everyone else is offering or charging, do your own thing. Stop giving your energy and power away.

Face Your Fears

Face and address your own sabotaging fears or sabotaging patterns of behaviour. There is no point focusing on a law of attraction mindset if you are trying to suppress or deny what needs to be addressed.  What we resist persists, what we suppress will eventually come to the surface. 

Own Your Coaching Business

Start owning you are a business service, address any issues you have around this. At least 90% of the coaches and therapists I work with struggle for many years because they view themself as for example lightworkers who are helping people so they shouldn’t need to advertise. Sadly so many of them rarely show up and never survive, stuck in the sand believing they are doing such great work that everyone should find them. If you charge you are in business.

Get Connected

When you get connected with spirit, god, and your essence. You live each day with a bigger sense of confidence, calm, and trust. You get out of your fearful sabotaging head and into a state of being. And how can you do that, well with the right type of meditation. The type of meditation or technique that helps you access that sense of presence, stillness, and inner wisdom at almost the switch of a button. When we can bring in a state of peace, stillness, and connectedness to our moment to moment life. Our fearful sabotaging mind starts to fall away.

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