Hygge – How To Create A Cozy Winter Space Of Self Care through the lovely Danish tradition of hygge. Exploring the principles of hygge and a list of hygge activities that are great at nurturing the mind, body and soul during the winter months.
What is Hygge?
Hygge pronounced “hue-guh” is at the heart of Traditional Danish Culture which is based around creating a space of contentment and cosiness around simple everyday pleasures. Using principles that help create more harmony, comfort, gratitude, wholeness, a sense of presence and full beingness, pleasure and peace.
Hygge very much helps nourish the heart and soul, it is great at supporting better mental and emotional wellbeing. And can be extremely healing on the nervous system.
As the hygge way of life is about a state of beingness, pleasure and contentment. Hygge principles creates a more harmonious and pleasant atmosphere that helps us move away from anything in our life that is creating dis-ease, anxiety or stress into a more relaxed state of ease and gladness.
9 Ways To Create A Cosy Hygge Space – Hygge Infographic
Here is some simple ways to create a warm cosy atmosphere in any space or home.
Start by gathering together those warm cosey blankets, pillows and chairs.
Choose more soft lighting with candles or dimmed lights.
Build a warm fire or get in front of a warm heater.
Have plenty warm drinks, comforting and nourishing food.
Look out those cosy slippers and woolly socks.
Unwind with a relaxing hobby such as crotchet, knitting, a good book.
One of the most simplest ways to use to support better self care this winter is by making a list of hygge activities that you, your family members of friends would enjoy. such as
Diffusing or burning your favourite winter essential oils such as Frankincense, Orange & Cinnamon.
Craft activities.
Trimming the Christmas Tree together as a family
Writing a gratitude list.
Let Each Family Choose Their Favourite Hygge Activity
Since Hygge’s principles are based around equality, community and togetherness. It is important to get creative in planning activities and experiences that the whole family or group can enjoy, activities to suit different ages and pleasures.
Getting younger kids involved in writing a list of activities for friends, family and grandparents can be a lot of fun at Christmas time.
Why Comforting Activities Help Support A Healthier Lifestyle
Comforting ways of being are not just for winter months but for all year round. Bringing more hygge into your daily routine, your way of being is a great way to consciously cushion yourself against life’s challenges and stressors. Help encourage a more happier and balanced lifestyle.
Slowing down and enjoying the simple things in life, helps us smell the roses and focus on what is important.
It is important to prioritise more wholesome and relaxing ways of being into your weekends or evenings with yourself and those you love.
If you would love some help to relax, slow down, create a more comfortable, stress less life. Check out my meditations and programs designed to help you relax, switch off, become more soul empowered and more stress resilient such as my new Soul Care Sunday Morning Meditation Class, Courses or Coaching.
Eileen Burns is a Soul Empowerment Coach, Stress Resilience Expert, Meditation Teacher and Healer of 30 years. Owner of Stress Coach Training and Spiritual Marketing Club.
Lemon Oil has a fresh and invigorating scent, it is extracted from lemon peel. The essential oil of lemon is said to have a frequency of 91 MHz.
Therapeutic Benefits Of Lemon Oil
Lemon Oil has extensive therapeutic properties for the mind, body, and emotions.
Mental Benefits Of Lemon Essential Oil
One of the things I found fascinating about the essential oil of lemon when I began studying aromatherapy 30 years ago was how Japan would diffuse lemon oil in their factories to boost work performance and productivity.
In one study of Inhalation Of Essential Oils we see how memory in work performance and word recall is improved with the inhalation of lemon oil compared to sandalwood and kusunoki oil.
Lemon essential oil has also been shown in medical studies to improve task performance in those with Alzheimer’s. It is a natural motivator and mood enhancer.
Lemon is a great clarifier that can help keep us focused and aligned with our self and purpose.
Physiological Benefits Of Lemon Oil
Lemon essential oil which is extracted from lemon peel is widely known as anti-bacterial, antiseptic, astringent, and antioxidant. Citrus lemon is used widely in many body care and body washes, as well as in many natural household cleaning products, as well as skincare products and perfumes.
Lemon helps boost and support the immune system and can act as an aid in balancing sugar levels in diabetics.
The essential oil of lemon is also a natural tonic and detoxifier, can help support the lymphatic system, used as an aid to help treat cellulitis.
Lemon oil can help treat warts and verrucas, dab a cotton bud of oil into the center of the wart or verruca (carefully avoiding the rest of the skin).
Pharmaceutical and Medicinal Use Of Lemon Oil
Pharmacological use of citrus lemon has included lemon’s links with being anti-oxidative, antiulcer, antihelmintic, insecticidal, anticancer, cytotoxic, and estrogenic activities.
Skincare And Body Care Products
Lemon and Coriander by NYR Organics
This natural deodorant is made from lemon, lime, grapefruit, coriander, clove, and lavender essential oils.
A gentle and effective natural deodorant spray for underams.
is a refreshing nourishing balm made of Orange, Lemon and Grapefruit Oil blended with avocado, blackcurrant seed, cocoa, and shea butter.
DIY Nail Varnish Remover
Dr Axe offers a simple natural toxic-free nail varnish remover recipe; which is a blend of apple cider vinegar, sweet orange, grapefruit and lemon oil.
Safe And Effective Use Of Lemon Essential Oil
It is important to use all essential oils safely and effectively, if you have any medical challenges always consult a qualified aromatherapist.
LEMON OIL CONTRAINDICATIONS:
Avoid using lemon on infants and babies.
Avoid applying to the skin before sun exposure, or sunbathing.
High Vibration Of Wild Rose For Sensitive Souls, Empaths And Lightworkers
High Vibration of Wild Rose Essential Oil and as a skincare product for sensitive skin. Why wild rose and rose oil is a great essential oil for the highly sensitive person or lightworker. Why rose has been so widely used throughout time spiritually and cosmetically. Learn the main difference between rose, wild rose, and rosehip.
What is Wild Rose?
Wild rose is the most commonly used name for certain species of flowering shrubs known as roses that occur naturally. Wild roses are much stronger, healthier, and more vibrant than hybrids that have been cross-bred. The wild rose is well known for its much deeper and rapid root system that seems to survive extreme erosive environments. Rosehip is the fruit of the rose plant.
Vibration Of Wild Rose and Rose
Rose is stated to have a frequency of approximately 320 MHz, wild rose medicine is known for its uplifting and soothing ethereal vibrations.Rose colour is also known for its deeply healing and heart healing qualities. Frankincense Essential Oil is said to be approx 147 MHZ, Myrrh Essential Oil: 105 MHz.
How To Identify Wild Rose
True wild roses grow without any chemicals or pesticides. According to the Royal Horticultural Society “Wild roses (also known as species roses) mostly have thorny stems, single, often fragrant, early summer flowers, usually in one flush, followed by fruits (‘hips’) if flowers are not deadheaded…”
Roses And Spirituality
Wild Roses in ancient mythology are regarded as a symbol of love and adoration. The sacred use of roses and rose oil has been used by saints and many different religions it is mentioned in Ancient Sanskrit and Chinese scripts and in ancient Greece was said to be associated with Aphrodite. During the Middle Ages roses were used for medicinal purposes.
Muhammad declared the red rose to be “the manifestation of God’s glory” (Schimmel 1975, p. 299)—in particular, the marvelous red rose—as the divine presence that reveals divine beauty. The rose is also known as the flower of Heaven
Therapeutic Benefits Of Wild Rose
Rose Essential Oil has a variety of therapeutic benefits. Wild roses support us mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The ayurvedic and medicinal use of rose has been documented for thousands of years.
Physical Benefits Of Wild Roses: Rosehips which are from the seeds of roses are high in essential fatty acids, minerals, vitamins, and antioxidants. Rose oil from petals is widely known for being highly anti-inflammatory, and helpful in the regeneration of skin cells that is why both rose and rosehip are widely used in cosmetics and skincare products used to treat and reduce scarring, and stretch marks.
Psychological Benefits Of Wild Rose: The soothing and comforting scents of all rose oil’s are said to help reduce sadness and low mood associated with grief.
Mental Benefits Of Wild Rose Oil: Both the scent of Rose and its wild species are reputed to help one overcome apathy, and help encourage increased motivation.
Emotional Benefits Of Wild Rose Oil: Brings in the energy of love and a gentle form of joy. It is emotionally and spiritually uplifting.
Spiritual Benefits Of Wild Rose Oil: Roses and its oil are widely used in meditation, prayer, and spiritual and religious celebrations. Roses are said to represent god at work. Many people smell the strong scent of roses during both angelic and other spiritual experiences and find it soothes their soul.
This is one of my, my mum’s, and most of my sister’s favourite so it tends to be one of those little extras I put in for birthdays and Christmas. This is not just a beautiful balm to soothe nourished skin but can be used as a cleanser or to add some finishing touches to your lips, eyebrows, or cheeks.
The wild rose balm is made with 99% organic ingredients it includes lots of beautiful natural ingredients which include Rosa canina (Wild Rose) fruit oil, Simmondsia chinensis (Jojoba) seed oil*, Cera alba (Beeswax)*, Butyrospermum parkii (Shea butter)*, Cannabis sativa (Hemp) seed oil*, Borago officinalis (Starflower) seed oil*, Pelargonium graveolens (Geranium) flower oil*, Rosmarinus officinalis (Rosemary) leaf oil*, Boswellia carterii (Frankincense) oil, Cymbopogon martini (Palmarosa) herb oil*, Pogostemon cablin (Patchouli) leaf oil*, Ascorbyl palmitate, Tocopherol, Citral, Citronellol, Farnesol, Geraniol, Limonene, Linalool.*Organic. From essential oils. You can buy this product in the larger version or smaller jars.
This is another amazing rose oil product from NYR Organics, it is a bit lighter and fluid than the balm. It gives a nice nourishing radiance boost that leaves your skin feeling silky smooth. The combination of organic wild rosehip seed oil which is provitamin A-rich and the ultra-moisturising hyaluronic acid and balancing blend of organic geranium and patchouli essential oils, all leave the skin feeling supple with a natural radiant healthy glow.
Ingredients: Aqua (Water), Glycerin, Cetearyl olivate, Palmitoyl tripeptide-5, Rosa canina (Rosehip) fruit oil*, Curcuma longa (Turmeric) root extract, Pelargonium graveolens (Geranium) flower oil*, Boswellia carterii (Frankincense) oil, Rosmarinus officinalis (Rosemary) leaf oil*, Cymbopogon martinii (Palmarosa) herb oil*, Pogostemon cablin (Patchouli) leaf oil*, Sodium hyaluronate, Ascorbyl palmitate, Sorbitan olivate, Levulinic acid, Xanthan gum, Potassium sorbate, Citral, Citronellol, Coumarin, Eugenol, Farnesol, Geraniol, Limonene, Linalool. *Organically produced ingredient; Natural constituent of essential oils listed Made with 82% organic ingredients.
I love this rose glow facial oil as a night time treat for the skin. But since I tend to have slightly dry skin that easily gets dehydrated, I also use this as a base before makeup during the colder months. Ingredients: Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride, Triheptanoin, Vitis Vinifera – Grape Seed Oil*, Sunflower Seed Oil,* Ethyl Olivate, Shea Butter Ethyl Esters, Rosa Canina Fruit Oil*, Pelargonium Graveolens Flower Oil,* Boswellia Sacra Resin Oil*, Rosemary Leaf Oil*, Cymbopogon Martini Oil*, Pogostemon Cablin Leaf Oil*, Olive Leaf Extract*, Geraniol, Citronellol, Limonene, Linalool, Citral, Farnesol. *ORGANIC. FROM ESSENTIAL OILS. Of total ingredients: 100% natural origin, 30% organic.
This lovely rose soap bar leaves not only your skin more soft and smooth, it is soothing scent is extremely comforting, uplifting whilst relaxing, perfect after a busy, stressful or tiring day. This is another one of NYR Organic products that makes a lovely gift.
*Organic. **Organic Origin. From Essential Oils. Of total: 100% natural origin, 71% organic.
Organic Rosehip Oil
Organic Rosehip Oil nourishes delicate, dry, or sun-damaged skin. Organic Rosehip Oil is rich in essential fatty acids, which encourage the production of the prostaglandins involved in tissue healing and regrowth. EFAs also help to promote cellular development and collagen synthesis, which is important for keeping skin smooth and supple.
This Rosehip oil 50 ml is made from the fruit seeds of the Rose Canina it is 100% organic
Rose Essential Oils
And of course, I have to mention the Rose Absolute Essential Oil and Rose Otto Essential Oil gorgeous rose essential oils you can use to add to your bath, blend as a massage oil, or use to make your own skincare products.
Wild Rose and Rose products are beautiful gifts not just for sensitive and empaths but they are great for healers and therapists who want to wear something light and uplighting that helps them radiate the vibration of compassion in their work without suffering from compassion fatigue.
Healing Benefits Of Rose Oil And Rose Absolute Oil
The Art Of Self-Compassion And Compassion. Why compassion for ourselves and others is so important, especially during this time of awakening and ascension?
How to find self-compassion for ourselves and others without suffering from compassion fatigue?
What Is Compassion?
Compassion is the strong emotional feelings we have in relation to another person’s pain and human suffering, whether that be emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual pain.
What Is Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion is having the same level of compassion and positive regard for ourselves that we have for other people. Some say it is a form of goodwill towards ourselves as it involves helpful thoughts, kindness, and a deep caring for oneself.
Why Is Self-Compassion So Challenging?
But why is self-compassion such a struggle for so many people, especially empaths and those in the caring professions, who show so much compassion for others on a daily basis?
Like everything in life, there are many reasons we can struggle with self-compassion, as much as we can also suffer compassion fatigue.
Common challenges with self-compassion are often linked to an inability to look at our own trauma, our own pain, distorted beliefs, and unhealthy patterns.
This can lead to unhealthy expectations of self and others, which can cause a lot of inner conflict, that leaves us believing that we all need, must, or should be super perfect, superhuman, be there more for others than ourselves.
Which can lead to all sorts of problems such as burn out, illness, resentment and compassion fatigue.
There is a general view that a lack of self-compassion stems from poor self-worth and self-esteem. Though, according to Professor Kristin Neff, 5 Myths Of Self Compassion one of the biggest problems is actually an over-emphasis on self-esteem.
She has a very valid point, in relation to the personal development and coaching industry which often implies self-esteem, as something you achieve through striving, and goal-setting, in relation to building self-confidence.
When one over-identifies with the human self, the egoic self rather than our soul essence and god spark we are more likely to suffer from human burnout and compassion fatigue. Which is so prevalent in the health and caring industry.
Signs Of Compassion Fatigue
Compassion fatigue can show up in all sorts of ways, here are some common symptoms of compassion fatigue
Loosen Our Over Identity With The Human Experience: One of the wisest things we can do is to learn how to loosen our over-identification with the human experience. And nurture a deeper connection with our spiritual self. Every single one of us has human challenges, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities to face. It is easy for us to judge ourselves or others harshly when we over-identify with the human aspect instead of the soul. When we can find the wisdom to view human conditioning from a more spiritual or awakened perspective the easier it is to bring in objectivity and more compassion to ourselves and others
Develop An Open Heart: An open heart moves us out of judgment and self-judgment. It helps us move out of polarity, out of I am right, you are wrong. I am weak your strong or vice versa. It moves out of any competition or needs to be anything or anyone, into the ability to radiate true love including ourselves.
Deepen Your Soul Connection: A good soul connection starts with a good heart connection, it helps us be guided by our soul of what is right for us and what is not.
Identify Your Main Shadow Archetypes: Identifying the main shadow archetypes that are withholding compassion can help reveal a lot about our triggers. For example, if we see the Martyr, Rescuer, Judge, Ruler, Victim, or other archetypes at play, we can see what distorted narratives and patterns need to be balanced. While doing shadow work it is important to do be more self compassionate towards ourselves and others.
Heal Your Inner Child: Healing your inner child trauma with deep self-compassion and spiritual maturity helps us heal unhealthy distortions of how we must, should, or need to be. It also helps us heal certain expectations we put on others. Other than actively getting the right help and support to heal our inner childhood wounding. There are a variety of natural essences and essential oils that can support us Ylang Ylang Oil is a useful essential oil that helps soothe and comfort the inner child.
Become More Present: The more present we can become in our own lives, the more mindful, aware, and present we become to our mental and emotional triggers. The easier it is to start minimizing and eliminating unhealthy reactions and behavioral patterns that keep us in an unhealthy loop.
Practice Patience: Like everything self-compassion and self-love takes time to master. We are all doing the best we can, with the level of consciousness we are at. We all have different types of vulnerabilities and weaknesses, some can be easier than others to work through. It is important to be patient and be…
Be Kind To Yourself: Showing kindness to ourselves is so underrated, in a time when truth is becoming so important it can be easy to forget that there still needs to be a place of kindness, especially self-kindness.
Ready to boost your vibration, increase your energy, raise your levels of consciousness, and manifesting power? These simple yet powerful ways help boost your vibration and your mood, and help support you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually on your journey of awakening and ascension. We know the more we can increase our vibration, the easier it is to manifest and attract a different reality in our life and on our planet.
11 Ways To Boost Your Vibration
Be More In The Moment:
It is much easier to manage your energy and boost your vibration when you are fully in the present moment. Our stressors and our triggers are more likely to be engaged when we are in our head rather than in a state of being. It is much easier to be in a state of energetic flow in the moment.
Eat Clean High Vibrational Foods:
What we eat and drink and even medically put in our body has a huge impact on our physical body, the physical vessel and energetic body that is here to help hold the spiritual vessel.
So many foods lower our vibration and interfere with our spiritual channel, especially alcohol, artificial sweeteners, and caffeine which can block the 3rd eye. So eat high-vibe food, especially food that is organic, fresh, and from all the colours of the rainbow.
Get More Soul Connected:
The stronger our soul connection is, the easier it is to be a strong channel for love, light, and divine truth. This will help raise your soul power, and boost your vibration and spiritual connection to god, to the divine.
So practice deep meditation with your soul, and create time for spiritual prayer to build that richer deeper connection with your heart and soul. Also, it is important to note that affirmations are best done when we are deeply and spiritually connected.
Inner Work:
Doing the inner work, the shadow work, soul work, and inner child work helps us heal old trauma, old ancestral, karmic, and energetic patterns in ourselves, our family line, and the collective. That is why I LOVE working with archetypal therapy as archetypes are a powerful and fast way to identify our shadow traits and deep inner child wounding.
Be Authentic:
Work on being authentic, being honest with yourself first and foremost and others. It helps free the soul and detach from the deep hold the ego has on the identity we think we need to present to the world. A very natural way to boost your vibration, your soul.
Know You Are Enough:
When you know you are enough it is much easier to show up as you, show up in a healthy, confident way. So many lightworkers and spiritual business owners sabotage their success by trying to be something they are not. Trying to be more of something they are never meant to be. You are here to be you, this helps us let go and let god.
Stay On Your Path:
Staying in our lane, focusing on our spiritual journey, and our life purpose helps accelerate our vibration tenfold. The more you get distracted by others’ roles, knowledge tools, and techniques than what you are here to do. The more you scatter and lower the energy of your own soul path and soul connection.
Get Grounded:
Get grounded as much as possible, we are so used to living in such unnatural environments, we don’t realize how unhealthy and ungrounded we are.
So get out in mother nature, and bring more nature to you. Essential oils, house plants, and certain crystals can help support us with grounding. So can energy tools that help protect our energy.
Use Natural Medicine:
We are so lucky to be surrounded by nature’s medicine in our gardens and nature, but also today have such easy access to so many forms of natural medicine, and nutritional healing from nature. There are so many things in nature that can help support our wellbeing, for example, I have some fresh mint in my garden that I use as an infusion, and lavender is extremely soothing and healing.
Many essential oils can raise our vibration energy, like lemon oil and orange oil are great for boosting our mood, rose is gently uplifting, and great for grief, loneliness, and heartache.
Expand Your Heart:
Heart expansion helps us raise our vibration, and increase our capacity for more compassion, love, and generosity of spirit. Our heart intelligence has a higher wisdom, and higher vibration than our egoic mind. That is why it is so important for us to work on expanding our spiritual heart such as in this heart meditation.
I hope you have enjoyed my suggestions, if you would love more help to raise your vibration, and expand your soul power and soul connection check out my free lightworkers library and my Lightworkers portal, packed with a plethora of spiritual tools for Lightworkers.
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7 Signs You Are Being Gaslighted In Therapy Or Healing
What is gaslighting? And what are some of the most common signs of being gaslighted in therapy, healing or coaching? How to deal with a therapist, healer or even coach that is gaslighting you.
What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is basically a manipulative tactic one person uses to gain control or power over someone else by basically seeding doubt in someone else’s mind of their own reality. By trying to instil confusion over the person’s own memories, beliefs and sanity.
Gaslighting is a form of control and in many ways psychological abuse and although narcissistic gaslighting is a widely recognised behaviour pattern adopted by narcissists.
Most of us experience some form of gaslighting in our life at some time, especially in situations where we are vulnerable and there is an imbalance of power.
That is why sadly gaslighting at work and in the patient-to-doctor and client-to-therapist relationship is so common. It is not always caused by deliberate abuse or even recognised but it is something I see evidence of in a big way every single day.
We can all get caught up in it gaslighting in subtle ways even though it can be extremely damaging even traumatising to the individual’s psyche, self-confidence and self-esteem.
Gaslighted By The Medical And Healing Profession
I spent years being gaslighted by the medical profession and health practitioners, who didn’t believe the medical challenges I was dealing with.
Mainly due to their own lack of awareness, insight and experience.
It taught me valuable lessons about how well the wounded healer within us all can mean well but can also cause harm to the clients we are supposed to help heal and empower.
And made me question so much around the potential harm around so much fast-track training in the therapy, healing and coaching sector. Especially when I met so many people including clients who were gaslighted by the people that they were supposed to protect them.
Psychological abuse that would have me questioning my own sanity, nearly cost me my eye, my life and the loss of tens of thousands of pounds in the wrong types of therapy and healing.
It highlighted how much a little bit of knowledge and the need to be right or in control can be dangerous even in the most well-meaning individual.
And how much our own personal agenda, our own personal bias and beliefs as a therapist can seriously thwart, harm or sabotage another person’s healing process and self-empowerment.
A more recent visit to a chiropractor highlighted the cost of this problem. After revealing extreme trauma and misalignment to my spine, shoulder, head and body (4 inches of misalignment in very key areas of my body) that went in many ways undiagnosed and untreated for so long that it had caused even more complications. Because of such a push by others what I was experiencing was more psychological when it was physiological.
Sadly this is becoming a huge problem in some forms of healing and therapy, where too many healers lacking expertise, knowledge and awareness are gaslighting their clients’ reality into such an unhealthy degree that many clients are questioning their reality or feel too ashamed, guilty to seek they help they really need.
Gaslighting In The Workplace
Gaslighting in the workplace is one of the most psychologically abusive forms of control in the workplace. It can lead to extreme mental and emotional challenges for the victim or victims. It is something that is not always easy to address, especially when a well-seasoned narcissist knows how to play the victim and the environment well..
Gaslighting In Today’s Society
Sadly gaslighting by people in government and power has never been as strong in the West and worldwide as we have seen over the last few years. This alongside horrendous censorship has created a mass amount of manipulation and abuse of power. This can leave the people questioning their reality, in a state of confusion and disempowerment, a place where the abusers want their victims to be so they can control them even further.
7 Common Signs Of Being Gaslighted In Therapy
Signs of gaslighting in therapy, healing, counselling and coaching.
Creates Doubt/Confusion:
The therapist or healer ignites doubt, and confusion or even tries to trivialise or twist your reality about a situation. This is very common when your reality does not fit someone else’s belief system or agenda. Now of course in certain types of therapy, it is the therapist’s job to help you renavigate distorted thinking. But there is a fine line between twisting someone’s reality and helping them create healthier thinking patterns.
Constantly Tears You Down:
They will tear you down, then try to build you back up, tear you down, build you back up in a way that creates energetic chaos and instability. It feels very unsafe and in many ways is extremely ungrounding and even traumatizing.
Ignite Shame And Guilt:
Often an abusive therapist will take advantage by deliberately igniting shame, and guilt in their client as a way to gain power or control over the client in the session. Or even blame them for their mistakes or ignorance, shifting responsibility for their harmful actions or ignorance onto the client.
Actions Don’t Reflect Words:
They will tell you they are here to help you or support you but their actions imply the exact opposite when you are being gaslighted in therapy, counselling or coaching.
Attempt To Control Your Decisions:
Another way gaslighting can show up is when a healer, therapist or coach tries to control your decisions. They will try to exert power, and control over the decisions you make in your life, relationships, health or business. This is also seen in health professionals or therapists who believe they are the answer to all of your problems and encourage co-dependency issues.
Create Co-Dependency Issues:
Gaslighting often has a huge impact on the victim’s self-esteem and self-confidence this and the constant questioning of their reality and sanity leads them to be more vulnerable to mental and emotional instability and co-dependency issues in the client-to-therapist or professional relationship.
Misdiagnose You:
Sadly a very common form of gaslighting in the medical and healing profession today is misdiagnosing someone as crazy or that someone’s symptoms are all in their head rather than in their physical reality. We see this a lot in newer healers, therapists and health professionals who have a little bit of knowledge, think they know it all and as we say don’t know what they don’t know. It often comes from lack of experience, knowledge and lack of awareness.
How To Deal With Being Gaslighted
How to deal with gaslighting in a therapy, healing or coaching session.
Recognise You Are Being Gaslighted:
It is so important to know when you are being gaslighted, awareness is key. When people talk about gaslighting they often just think about gaslighting in an abusive relationship. But gaslighting happens in different facets of life.
There is a very fine line between a therapist or healer who deliberately manipulates, bullies, gaslights or even coerces you to diminish your power and ability to decide what is right for you. Or one who is just naive and unaware but sadly both can be damaging.
Stand In Your Truth:
Stand in your truth, when being gaslighted. Don’t let someone try to manipulate your experiences. Although some types of therapy and healing are there to help us expand or way of thinking, to help us see our reality is a perception and what we have attracted and manifested into our life.
Don’t let any spiritual or wellbeing professional try to doubt or diminish your personal truth, your experiences. because of their inability to handle, deal or listen to your truth. If you are experiencing serious abuse of power don’t be scared to call them out.
Remember They Haven’t Walked In Your Shoes:
Remember that person has not walked or lived in your shoes, they are only seeing a tiny snap shot of your life from their own lens. That lens could be crystal clear or it could be very distorted. We have to be open to our own blind spots and know we all have our own way of seeing the world, which may or not be truth. But therapists can also have a certain bias, it is why therapists of psychology often see their clients mostly through their psychological perceptions, why many inner child therapists tend see their clients challenges through the eyes of mental and emotional trauma from childhood. And why many bodyworkers mostly view their clients challenges through the world of physiological stress, trauma or unhealthy posture.
Listen To Your Own Soul:
The clearer your connection to your heart, soul and god connection, the easier it is to become resilient to other people’s distortions, projections and energetic interferences. This come from not just a good soul connection but good soul power.
The problem is if you are really energetically sensitive and highly empathic, you are also more open to other people’s wounding and trauma in the collective and this is where it can get energetically confusing,
So in the process of your own healing it is so important to choose not just the right therapist or healer but one with the right skillset and tools for your specific needs that will help honour your soul’s path.
Healing From Being Constantly Gaslighted
One of my biggest lessons has been the importance of choosing the right therapist or healer for me. Learning to ask the right questions and look for key signs that someone may or may not have the expertise or level of awareness or consciousness I need or want.
This includes investing in healers and therapists who are not just about getting the certificates but actually do the inner work.
One of the reasons I now personally choose to mostly invest in therapists, healers and wellness practitioners who have been in the field a long time, highly conscious and awake lightworkers who are highly invested in their own healing journey and spiritual growth. Awake enough to know what is going on in the world.
None of us are perfect, we are all learning, growing and expanding in consciousness and awareness and it is important you choose a therapist or healer that aligns with you.
The last thing you need in the process of trying to heal from gaslighting trauma from a therapist is to face further gaslighting from another healer or therapist or work with a therapist or healer who is not self-aware enough to support you in the best way.
End Any Therapist Agreement That Isn’t Working
Don’t be shy or scared about ending any agreement with a healer or therapist where you feel it is just not working. I know personally I have spent thousands of pounds on healing and therapy that wasn’t the right fit. At times I went to healers and therapists for years just because I felt coerced or obliged.
Avoid working with any therapist or healer who tries to manipulate you into working with them or believes you should be going to them because you know them. This is extremely unprofessional and unethical and in many cases, it can be better to go to someone you don’t know on a personal level.
Self Compassion And Self-Forgiveness
Be kind and compassionate towards yourself, therapy and healing is a process, we all have wounds and challenges that we need help and support with at times for so many reasons. When we are vulnerable and seeking help or answers we don’t always make the wisest choices.
Bring in self-compassion and self-forgiveness and of course forgiveness for the other who is only functioning from their level of consciousness or awareness at that point.
And remember like all forms of healing, take one day at a time, be open to miracles but be patient with yourself when that healing takes a little longer than you hoped or planned.
