Common Signs Of Compassion Fatigue And Empathy Burnout
5 Signs Of Compassion Fatigue and Emotional Burn-Out. What does compassion fatigue look like and what can you do to reduce the risk of this type of emotional exhaustion, anxiety and stress with Empath and Stress Management Expert; Eileen Burns.
What is Compassion?
Compassion is an awareness and sensitivity to other people’s suffering. Which invokes concern and sympathy, it involves altruism and a wanting to take action to reduce the person’s pain. Now it is easy to get confused with compassion and empathy. Examples of compassion is offering to help out a friend, neighbour with something they find difficult. Being able to listen to someones recent challenges with patience and care.
What is Empathy?
Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone’s position and feel what someone else is feeling. Someone who is an empath will often actually feels the pain of others for example the physical, mental, emotional pain of others or the energy of a place. Examples of empathy being able to sense other people’s emotions and feelings, feel or see behind a mask. Absorbing other people’s energies, dramas, excitement.
What is Compassion Fatigue and Empathy Fatigue?
Compassion Fatigue
Compassion Fatigue is a form of burn-out a reduction in compassion and empathy that leads to a variety of symptoms that can make you feel frustrated, exhausted, detached, in a state of apathy.
It is caused by both secondary traumatic stress (common in empathy fatigue) which I talk about below and burnout. Often seen in prolonged long periods of over empathy and caregiving, periods of extreme trauma, stress or chronic stress.
Empathy Fatigue
Empathy fatigue is extremely common in empaths as empathy can be extremely overwhelming and very stimulating on the nervous system. It can involve a lot of over-identification of other people’s pain especially when the empath lacks healthy boundaries.
This happens when one’s own wounds are re-triggered by the pain or challenges of others, but feel unable, too detached or too overwhelmed to give the support.
Empathy Fatigue was coined by Professor Mark Stebnicki who documented the observations of “secondary traumatic stress” in what he classed as “high-touch therapists” for example counsellors, psychotherapists etc who in their work needed to have a strong emotional connection to their patients, therapists. They were presenting the same symptoms of their patients or clients anxiety and stress.
Are You At Risk Of Compassion Fatigue Or Empathy Burnout?
Empaths, healers, therapists, caregivers, coaches and counsellors are at a high-risk of compassion fatigue and empathy fatigue. Especially those that suffer or become distracted by other people’s pain.
5 Common Signs Of Compassion Fatigue and Empathy Fatigue
Below are common signs in empathy fatigue and compassion fatigue where there is an overlap in triggers and causes.
Apathy
Feelings of Apathy is a very common sign of compassion fatigue, feel as if you don’t care about anything anymore. Lack of concern, interest enthusiasm and motivation.
Anger and Irritability
Feeling anxious, angry and irritable are common compassion fatigue symptoms. It comes from being overwhelmed and having less tolerance.
Burnout And Exhaustion
A general feeling of burnout and overwhelming exhaustion that leaves you feeling unable to have the mental, emotional or physical resources to deal with or support someone else who is suffering.
Detached
Feeling very detached from your own emotions and emotions, suffering of others is a common example of compassion fatigue in healthcare and hospitals. This is very common in medical professionals, nurses, doctors, those who deal with traumatic experiences, all sorts of mental, emotional pain and suffering on a daily basis.
Emotional and Traumatic Recollections
Emotional and Traumatic Recollections where the client, patient or situation triggers certain memories associated with another client, patient or their own personal trauma. Especially those that are related to particularly traumatic, demanding or challenging situations.
Healing And Manging Compassion Fatigue and Empathy Fatigue
Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries is so important to reduce both compassion fatigue and empathy fatigue especially in empaths who tend to struggle with boundaries and non-identification. As an unruly empath for most of my life, this has been something I have had to work on deeply.
Many empaths have to deeply understand the importance of boundaries, challenge their belief systems and habits around feeling responsible for other people’s pain and suffering. Unfortunately empaths tend to be more prone to attract those who want to stay in victimhood, narcissistic traits and behaviour patterns.
Healthy Lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is an important aspects of preventing any sorts of mental, emotional fatigue and burnout. What we eat, what we consume mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually can fuel us, deplete or intoxicate us. That is why it is important to do what you can to consume a high vibrational life.
Sadly many medical professionals are some of the most unhealthiest eaters, have alcohol or other addictions. Suffer insomnia especially understandably those on unhealthy shift patterns. All of these things will lead to depletion and physical burnout which in turn reflects the amount of emotional and mental resources you have to support others.
Good Self Awareness
Good self awareness is key in helping us become aware of our needs, our own triggers, light and shadow traits. Our unconscious habits and beliefs that are keeping us stick. Many in the healing and therapy professionals are wounded healers, choosing careers in these areas because of their own past or present wounding.
This can provide greater compassion for others but can also lead to a variety of challenges if the inner child trauma or inner child wounding is not healed. Especially when there is saviour, healer or rescuer traits which can create all forms of co-dependency issues in the patients and clients.
Self Care and Self Compassion
Self Care and Self Compassion is a vital component to the prevention and reduction of compassion fatigue and empath burnout. This is so important in caregivers and empaths who are naturally altruistic and motivated in life by service to others. And who struggle to identify their own needs, wants often due to a childhood knee deep in supporting, helping, rescuing others. Especially self care that helps us keep an open and expansive heart.
Trauma Support
Support with your own personal trauma is so important, we all carry trauma from our childhood and adulthood that shapes our beliefs, behaviours and reactions on a daily basis. Trauma comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes, it impacts us all in different ways in our life, relationships, health and wellbeing.
As someone who has tried out, studied and practices wide range of therapeutic approaches to help clients with trauma for over 20 years. I would always support a holistic approach, a multi-faceted approach for the best results. I personally use a combination of therapeutic archetypal and inner child coaching, healing and therapy with my own clients.
How To Receive Support From The Universe. The ability to ask and receive from god and the universe, the ability to trust that support from the universe will come.
Our Deepest Struggles With Receiving From The Universe
Why do so many of us struggle to ask or receive support from the universe?
Why do so many lightworkers give so generously but have such wounds in the ability to receive from others?
Like many lightworkers I spent most of my life struggling to receive. Despite highly investing in my own wellbeing, my own healing, investing in all sorts of training and spiritual work. Way more generous, qualified and experienced than most of my fellow therapists and healer I found it so difficult to charge my worth.
When it came to receiving and asking for what I genuinely deserved in my life I fell very short.
Like so many healers and therapists I would give so much to my clients but so little myself.
I had so much wounding around receiving it showed up in so many areas of my life.
An inability to receive the right sort of support from the universe can have so many layers to it. For me a lot of the unhealthy patterns feeding it, were layered amidst deepest seated strong rescuer, helper and caregiver traits formed from a young age.
Unconscious Programming That Rejects Support From The Universe
Unconscious Programming From Trauma
Early childhood conditioning and trauma from our surroundings; parents, culture and religion plays a huge part in unconscious programming.
Programming that at a deep level harms and rejects our divine rights to support from the universe.
It is one of the reason why so many highly sensitive empaths lacking healthy boundaries are often the worst receivers. They are often so energetically entangled in other people’s emotional needs, desires and energetic attachments. They are disconnected from their own needs and desires.
This is also a big reason so many therapists and healers today are carrying around all sorts of negative energetic attachments they don’t even realise they have.
Unconscious programming plays a paramount part on most people’s ability to receive.
It also plays a big part in someone’s ability to feel spiritually connected with the universe and god. In many ways it all comes back to trust and worthiness.
When we don’t trust in the universe or ourselves there is massive spiritual disconnection.
It is why I personally believe poor soul power and poor soul connection is one of the biggest causes of so much unhappiness and poor discernment in the world and in the spiritual sector.
Disconnection in god and the universe shows up in a lack of intuition and lack of faith. An ability to be able to truly ask and receive more support from the universe in our daily life.
We just need to look at the last few years to see evidence in the masses of how spiritually disconnected most people are from their own inner guidance and personal sovereignty.
How programmed they are in certain narratives and in media illusion, so easily hijacked because of disconnection.
What Most Spiritual And Law Of Attraction Books Don’t Teach
Despite studying all sorts of spiritual teachings, law of attraction, manifesting and belief work for over 30 years. Like many people I struggled to receive some of the most basic things I deserved to receive in my life.
But I also could see how clearly how so many books out there like The Secret and even the program The Secrets Of The Secret were only scratching the surface and not revealing all.
Leaving out so many important factors and areas that influenced and interfered with peoples abilities to manifest and receive.
Missing out so many basics in relation to soul contracts, ancestral wounding and other psychic and spiritual phenomena that could interfere with one’s ability to receive.
But it wasn’t until 10 years ago after a life threatening experience in an induced coma, did I start to really explore these aspects on a much deeper level.
Why It Took A Near Death Experience To See Things More Clearly
Despite a life time of chronic and rare medical conditions. And more than a few serious medical injuries, so many would say was a life of insane bad luck( that people would joke you need to write a book)
It would take literally a near death experience, a spiritual experience to really wake me up and push me to start looking at my own life and so many other things from a different perspective.
After this life changing experience, nothing would ever be the same. I would experience so many strange, spiritual and psychic experiences that at one point I seriously began to question my reality and everything I ever knew.
But equally the universe started to provide all sorts of people, teaching and insights that I wouldn’t trade for the world. A path of exploration of so many spiritual teachings and in areas of psychic psychology and psychic phenomena that most main spiritual teachers don’t talk about,
Things that that made me realise how much was missing from so much teachings in energy, healing and spirituality that was amiss.
It highlighted even more the bigger problems with fast track training.
The cost of not truly taking the time to find the right teacher, not just the cheapest teacher or quickest certificate
And why the masses so easily gave over their personal sovereignty and autonomy over the last few years.
Knowing We Are More Than Enough
Knowing we are enough and so much more than enough, is a basic fundamental of our ability to receive.
Our ability to access some sense of personal sovereignty is a fundamental aspect of our trust in ourselves and the universe.
A realisation that we are a god spark, a very important part of god’s consciousness is something we need to experience and feel at a soul level not just view from a mental perspective.
It is one of the reasons I am a big fan of teachings that focus on soul work first than just mental and belief work, that can have too much emphasis on the ego and 3d.
Know you are more than enough, knowing you are made in the image of god, you are a gift of god is one of the most basic but powerful knowings we need to integrate and embed into our psyche and as a collective for us to receive the miracles and support from the universe we all need right now.
In our purest essence we are beautiful gifts in the universe, we are more powerful and more deserving than we can imagine.
8 Tips To Receiving Support From The Universe
Connect With Your Spiritual Self;
Like every form of connection, the communication channel has to be clear. One of the things that so many teachings don’t talk about is the importance of building good soul connection. That is why deep soul work, developing a deeper connection with our higher self, god and the universe helps support a clearer channel of receiving.
Practice Daily Meditation;
Daily meditation is an important aspect of building a crystal clear connection with the universe. If you struggle to meditate you haven’t found the right meditation style, meditation teacher or there is something else going on that is creating resistance, stopping you from accessing that deeper stillness.
If you are someone who prefers to always be active; and are more attracted to what is walking or running meditation, inquire what aspect of the self or your reality you maybe trying to walk away or run away from
Ask and Receive;
It is so important that we start asking for support and spiritual guidance in a heart and soul felt way, so many of us forget to ask, our ask from an energetic place of despair, frustration or unworthiness that what we boomerang back is much of the same.
For example I met so many holistic and spiritual business owners who struggle to receive in business, but are actually approaching and treating their business on an energetic perspective like a bargain basement hobby or car boot sale.
The energy from what we ask has to be in energetic alignment with what we want to receive that is why it is important to ask with a grateful and open heart.
Gratitude and An Open Heart:
The ability to be truly grateful for even the smallest things in our life, increases our ability to receive more support from the universe to do even more in life. An open heart helps us gives from a high vibrational energy without ulterior motives. It helps shift us into an energy of there is more than enough for everyone.
Trust In The Universe;
Trust in the universe, trust in god. One of the ways we can reinforce trust in the universe and god is by tapping into and healing our divine inner child, our magical child. The magical inner child in its light form is a pure channel to magic and miracles. The divine child in it’s light form is our purest connection to divinity within ourselves, god and the universe. It helps us co-create with the universe and those we connect with.
Trust In Yourself:
We have to trust in ourselves as much as we trust in the universe and god. We have to learn to cultivate a trust that we can receive and deserve to receive so much more from the word. And to recognise that support from the universe is already happening every single day, the problem is we are often not quiet enough, still enough to notice or listen. Our egoic mind is controlling the show.
Healing Our Inner Child And Archetypal Wounding;
Healing both our inner child wounds and archetypal wounds help us to heal the energetic patterns that are keeping us stuck and in lack of support from the universe. Our main survival shadow archetypes keep us stuck in self sabotaging patterns of disconnection and destruction.
They can also like many of the other shadow archetypal traits keep us plugged into the 3d matrix programming that is very strong at that time. For example in the last few decades the darkest element of the alchemist and magician has been very strong in many areas of the collective.
We just need to look at the amount of illusion in all areas of our lives even the spiritual sector which has become an industry that is increasingly selling a large part of its soul to the highest bidder. Rather than doing what we do always for the purest intention.
Healing your wounding , doing shadow work around unworthiness can help open you to up to receive so much more support from the universe than you ever expected. When we start to heal and allow more light to come in, we open ourselves up to so much more than physical abundance, we access something much more valuable deep spiritual abundance, deep spiritual strength and wisdom.
Become More Mindful Of The Support From The Universe We Receive Daily
It is so important to become mindful of the support, the gifts we receive everyday. God has given us the gift of life, love, joy, the human experience, so many beautiful things and beautiful people around us.
When we become more mindful of what we already have. When look more closely at all the abundance, help and support we get from the universe, from god every single day of our life. We shift perspective and shift our vibration.
You are enough, you are worthy, you are deserving by simply being you.
Make a list today of all the free support from the universe that got you where you are today.
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High Vibration Of Wild Rose For Sensitive Souls, Empaths And Lightworkers
High Vibration of Wild Rose Essential Oil and as a skincare product for sensitive skin. Why wild rose and rose oil is a great essential oil for the highly sensitive person or lightworker. Why rose has been so widely used throughout time spiritually and cosmetically. Learn the main difference between rose, wild rose, and rosehip.
What is Wild Rose?
Wild rose is the most commonly used name for certain species of flowering shrubs known as roses that occur naturally. Wild roses are much stronger, healthier, and more vibrant than hybrids that have been cross-bred. The wild rose is well known for its much deeper and rapid root system that seems to survive extreme erosive environments. Rosehip is the fruit of the rose plant.
Vibration Of Wild Rose and Rose
Rose is stated to have a frequency of approximately 320 MHz, wild rose medicine is known for its uplifting and soothing ethereal vibrations.Rose colour is also known for its deeply healing and heart healing qualities. Frankincense Essential Oil is said to be approx 147 MHZ, Myrrh Essential Oil: 105 MHz.
How To Identify Wild Rose
True wild roses grow without any chemicals or pesticides. According to the Royal Horticultural Society “Wild roses (also known as species roses) mostly have thorny stems, single, often fragrant, early summer flowers, usually in one flush, followed by fruits (‘hips’) if flowers are not deadheaded…”
Roses And Spirituality
Wild Roses in ancient mythology are regarded as a symbol of love and adoration. The sacred use of roses and rose oil has been used by saints and many different religions it is mentioned in Ancient Sanskrit and Chinese scripts and in ancient Greece was said to be associated with Aphrodite. During the Middle Ages roses were used for medicinal purposes.
Muhammad declared the red rose to be “the manifestation of God’s glory” (Schimmel 1975, p. 299)—in particular, the marvelous red rose—as the divine presence that reveals divine beauty. The rose is also known as the flower of Heaven
Therapeutic Benefits Of Wild Rose
Rose Essential Oil has a variety of therapeutic benefits. Wild roses support us mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The ayurvedic and medicinal use of rose has been documented for thousands of years.
Physical Benefits Of Wild Roses: Rosehips which are from the seeds of roses are high in essential fatty acids, minerals, vitamins, and antioxidants. Rose oil from petals is widely known for being highly anti-inflammatory, and helpful in the regeneration of skin cells that is why both rose and rosehip are widely used in cosmetics and skincare products used to treat and reduce scarring, and stretch marks.
Psychological Benefits Of Wild Rose: The soothing and comforting scents of all rose oil’s are said to help reduce sadness and low mood associated with grief.
Mental Benefits Of Wild Rose Oil: Both the scent of Rose and its wild species are reputed to help one overcome apathy, and help encourage increased motivation.
Emotional Benefits Of Wild Rose Oil: Brings in the energy of love and a gentle form of joy. It is emotionally and spiritually uplifting.
Spiritual Benefits Of Wild Rose Oil: Roses and its oil are widely used in meditation, prayer, and spiritual and religious celebrations. Roses are said to represent god at work. Many people smell the strong scent of roses during both angelic and other spiritual experiences and find it soothes their soul.
This is one of my, my mum’s, and most of my sister’s favourite so it tends to be one of those little extras I put in for birthdays and Christmas. This is not just a beautiful balm to soothe nourished skin but can be used as a cleanser or to add some finishing touches to your lips, eyebrows, or cheeks.
The wild rose balm is made with 99% organic ingredients it includes lots of beautiful natural ingredients which include Rosa canina (Wild Rose) fruit oil, Simmondsia chinensis (Jojoba) seed oil*, Cera alba (Beeswax)*, Butyrospermum parkii (Shea butter)*, Cannabis sativa (Hemp) seed oil*, Borago officinalis (Starflower) seed oil*, Pelargonium graveolens (Geranium) flower oil*, Rosmarinus officinalis (Rosemary) leaf oil*, Boswellia carterii (Frankincense) oil, Cymbopogon martini (Palmarosa) herb oil*, Pogostemon cablin (Patchouli) leaf oil*, Ascorbyl palmitate, Tocopherol, Citral, Citronellol, Farnesol, Geraniol, Limonene, Linalool.*Organic. From essential oils. You can buy this product in the larger version or smaller jars.
This is another amazing rose oil product from NYR Organics, it is a bit lighter and fluid than the balm. It gives a nice nourishing radiance boost that leaves your skin feeling silky smooth. The combination of organic wild rosehip seed oil which is provitamin A-rich and the ultra-moisturising hyaluronic acid and balancing blend of organic geranium and patchouli essential oils, all leave the skin feeling supple with a natural radiant healthy glow.
Ingredients: Aqua (Water), Glycerin, Cetearyl olivate, Palmitoyl tripeptide-5, Rosa canina (Rosehip) fruit oil*, Curcuma longa (Turmeric) root extract, Pelargonium graveolens (Geranium) flower oil*, Boswellia carterii (Frankincense) oil, Rosmarinus officinalis (Rosemary) leaf oil*, Cymbopogon martinii (Palmarosa) herb oil*, Pogostemon cablin (Patchouli) leaf oil*, Sodium hyaluronate, Ascorbyl palmitate, Sorbitan olivate, Levulinic acid, Xanthan gum, Potassium sorbate, Citral, Citronellol, Coumarin, Eugenol, Farnesol, Geraniol, Limonene, Linalool. *Organically produced ingredient; Natural constituent of essential oils listed Made with 82% organic ingredients.
I love this rose glow facial oil as a night time treat for the skin. But since I tend to have slightly dry skin that easily gets dehydrated, I also use this as a base before makeup during the colder months. Ingredients: Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride, Triheptanoin, Vitis Vinifera – Grape Seed Oil*, Sunflower Seed Oil,* Ethyl Olivate, Shea Butter Ethyl Esters, Rosa Canina Fruit Oil*, Pelargonium Graveolens Flower Oil,* Boswellia Sacra Resin Oil*, Rosemary Leaf Oil*, Cymbopogon Martini Oil*, Pogostemon Cablin Leaf Oil*, Olive Leaf Extract*, Geraniol, Citronellol, Limonene, Linalool, Citral, Farnesol. *ORGANIC. FROM ESSENTIAL OILS. Of total ingredients: 100% natural origin, 30% organic.
This lovely rose soap bar leaves not only your skin more soft and smooth, it is soothing scent is extremely comforting, uplifting whilst relaxing, perfect after a busy, stressful or tiring day. This is another one of NYR Organic products that makes a lovely gift.
*Organic. **Organic Origin. From Essential Oils. Of total: 100% natural origin, 71% organic.
Organic Rosehip Oil
Organic Rosehip Oil nourishes delicate, dry, or sun-damaged skin. Organic Rosehip Oil is rich in essential fatty acids, which encourage the production of the prostaglandins involved in tissue healing and regrowth. EFAs also help to promote cellular development and collagen synthesis, which is important for keeping skin smooth and supple.
This Rosehip oil 50 ml is made from the fruit seeds of the Rose Canina it is 100% organic
Rose Essential Oils
And of course, I have to mention the Rose Absolute Essential Oil and Rose Otto Essential Oil gorgeous rose essential oils you can use to add to your bath, blend as a massage oil, or use to make your own skincare products.
Wild Rose and Rose products are beautiful gifts not just for sensitive and empaths but they are great for healers and therapists who want to wear something light and uplighting that helps them radiate the vibration of compassion in their work without suffering from compassion fatigue.
Healing Benefits Of Rose Oil And Rose Absolute Oil
Essential Flower Essences For Empaths, Sensitives, and Healers. Learn the mental and emotional benefits of flower essences, Bach essences, and other types of essences around today.
What Are Flower Essences?
Flower Essences are part of the Essence Family. You can get all sorts of essences including Plant, Gem & Crystal Essences, Environmental Essences, even Geometrical Essences.
Flower Essences are flower extracts, that are known to be mentally, emotionally, and physically balancing. Flower essences originated in the 1930’s from the work of Dr. Bach, a Medical Doctor, and Homeopath. Dr. Bach was a strong believer that “the key to good health was by emotional harmony”.
Dr. Bach went onto establish the use of 38 different flower essences to support different emotions. Each essence was obtained from either a plant, flower, or tree.
Flower essences are normally extracted through two different processes that Dr. Bach used; The sun method is used for the more delicate flower which involves floating the flower heads in water directly in the sun for approx 3 hours. The boiling the plant method tends to be more for other flowers and woodland plants that tend to blossom in lower sunlight. Both processes extract the vibration of the flowers into the water, which after being filtered is mixed with equal parts of Brandy and then classed as a stock remedy.
Different Types Of Flower Essences Today
Today there are many different types and ranges of Flower Essences and Essences from a variety of things. While studying my Diploma in Flower Essences we explored the
Australian Bush Essences
Bach Flower Essences
Findhorn Flower Essences
Later on I came to explore and use different types of essences
Divine Harmony Essences
Indigo Essences – especially the crystal essences
I have also used personally other essences created or channeled by other therapists, these include Janine Thorpe and Sally Arthurs.
My Experience Using Flower Essences
I was first introduced to Flower Essences in the early ’90s by a retired Dr practising different holistic medicine approaches. At a time in my life where I was young and ill, dealing with the physical, mental and emotional challenges of chronic and rare medical challenges in my early twenties. Conditions and symptoms that mainstream medicine couldn’t treat or offer me any support.
During this period two of my family members were involved in a serious physical assault which was extremely traumatising to them both. The practitioner that I was attending recommended they both take Rock Rose. Rock Rose was useful at helping release the terror and trauma of such an experience. Now only one chose to take the remedy, the other didn’t. The interesting thing I noticed was one sister after this dealt with the trauma more healthily than the other.
Later in my life another therapist prescribed me some Bach Remedies for a very stressful time in my life. It was a situation where I was working for an organisation where I was being put in a very difficult situation. After taking the flower essences I was so surprised how much the essences didn’t just help me feel more resilient but helped me become more self-aware, make me realise why I was struggling so much more.
I then went on to study a Diploma in Flower Essence Healing at college and began to use Flower Essences and other Essences in my work as a healer, coach and Stress Counsellor.
I was amazed at how effective it was for many clients suffering from extreme stress, Post Traumatic Stress, and Depression.
As someone who has always been extremely empathic and sensitive I found the Indigo Essences extremely beneficial at giving me a protective layer. This was particularly helpful for a few years after a Near Death Experience that left me very open spiritually and psychically. So much so that I was feeling others’ emotional and physical symptoms on a very exaggerated level.
Bach Essential Flower Essences For Empaths and Healers
Centaury for the inability to say NO. Centaury is very useful for empaths and healers anyone else who struggle to be assertive, struggle to stand up for themself. The people pleasers, the over givers, those tend to put others first and struggle to say NO. For those with co-dependency traits.
Crab Apple carries the energy of purity, many healers and intuitive’s find it helpful to clean the energy of other people’s trauma or negative energy. Wounded healers and unruly empaths can too easily absorb or take on the trauma or suffering of their clients or those around them.
Oak is for the individual who tends to be very strong, capable, and self-reliant. But tend to work very hard ( classical workaholic) who tend to push their limits, work through challenges without taking time out, breaks, etc
Star Of Bethlehem is a very effective flower essence to help heal old trauma, abuse, loss, and grief. Because Empaths and Healers tend to attract more situations where people are sharing their trauma and suffering. This not only exposes them to other people’s pain and suffering but is more likely to trigger personal wounds, memories not addressed that are still held in the cellular body. So is very supportive during Inner Child Therapy.
Walnut is a powerful essence to support us with any sort of transition in life. But it is also extremely helpful as a protection against outside influences, think about the protective shell around the Walnut. So walnut is extremely helpful for empaths who struggle to create healthy boundaries.
Indigo Essences For Empaths and Healers
The two I found very beneficial were
Bubble from Chrystal Series. This basically helps give you a feeling of an energetic bubble from Environmental Stress. Today so many healers and empaths are spending a lot of time online or around Electromagnetic Frequencies that can be very harsh on our energetic field.
Software from Chrystal Series. This essence is supposed to filter out the heavy energies coming towards your energetic field, Now this was designed for babies but as someone who developed extreme sensitivity, especially severe noise sensitivity that would trigger seizures. I found this very helpful at supporting my nervous system and help me be less affected by other people’s wounding and distortions.
Others Indigo Essences that Empaths, HSP’s and Healers may find beneficial include
Pink 4 from the Pink Essences will help you find a deeper more stronger connection to self. This is particularly important if you are a healer, coach, or therapist who is supporting others.
Pink 5 from the Pink Essences which helps you connect to source energy. Many healers assume that they are always connecting to source energy but as an experienced healer of 30 years I know this is not always the case for even those who
As you can see there are many different types of flower essences and other types of essences available to choose from. Explore the different types of flower essences, I find the indigo essences are the easiest for many people to intuitively choose from.
Eileen a highly experienced, healer, therapist, coach with a Diploma in Flower Essences Healing helps empaths and healers live more of their life and soul purpose with ease. Eileen offers Inner Child Healing, Spiritual Business Coaching alongside her online Stress Coach Training School.
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What does following your own truth mean? And why can owning your truth be hard at times especially when you are highly empathic or sensitive.
Living Your Own Truth
Well, to live your truth is about living a life full of authenticity and openness. To me, it is also one that is guided and supported by good spiritual guidance.
But why is not always easy, why do so many of us live most of our lives trying to live up to other people’s expectations or definitions of truth than our own truth?
As a highly sensitive empath I was a big people pleaser who struggled to own my truth. I have spent most of my life enmeshed in other people’s emotions I struggled to know my own. I’ve struggled to own and express my truth because of a distorted perception that owning my truth would hurt someone else.
Following Your Own Truth
For me following your truth has to start by recognising and owning what is true to you, no one else. From infanthood, we are exposed to other people’s beliefs, conditioning, values, and wounding. Other people’s perceptions of life or truth are based on their beliefs, personal experiences, and what feels true for them.
Every single one of us is uniquely different in our own unique soul’s essence and our purpose. That essence is part of a bigger picture, the jigsaw of life. And to do that in the healthiest authentic way we need to be able to follow what is true in our heart.
In many ways, I mean to follow our spiritual truth, not our egoic truth. So it is about getting out of our head, and our fear, and into the heart and soul.
Identifying Your Truth When Your Highly Empathic
We are all exposed to other people’s beliefs and ideologies daily. But at a core level, your soul craves the need to follow your path. Your spirit wants to live a life that is based on your integral values, and your inner compass.
One thing I was taught early on by my father was to trust my intuition. But to be honest, being a bit of an unruly empath my energy can easily be dominated by much stronger personalities or their views.
Like many empaths, I am very easily entangled by the emotional pain and needs of others. So I have to identify, own, and step into my truth, knowing what is my energy and what is not.
Moving Into What Is True For You
Believe me, moving into your truth isn’t easy if you have strong characters or strong views around you. But finding your truth is so important when trying to live a more healthy authentic life. If you don’t it is too easy to be living everyone else’s truth rather than your own.
Why It Is Easy To Lose Your Truth
So many people struggle to know their truth never mind follow their truth. It’s easy to lose yourself, your truth, your voice in relationships, within family dynamics, or at work. In jobs and careers where you have to live by other people’s policies, rules, core ethics, and values it is easy to lose or forget your truth.
Many work environments encourage suppression of truth and core values so much so you barely recognise yourself. Modern society programs us and gaslights us to question our reality and question what is morally right. All designed to cause doubt and confusion.
This is especially true for those of you who are highly empathic with unhealthy boundaries. But believe me, I know if you don’t get behind your truth, your inner guidance, you lose yourself. It can lead to anxiety, and stress because you have moved out of alignment with yourself.
Of course, on a spiritual level, everyone’s truth is just a story, just a perception. But to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves and to have direction we need to know ourselves. We need to know what feels right and fits with our values and what doesn’t. Suppressing or denying what feels true for you, can lead to all sorts of internal chaos, confusion even disease. So start owning your truth today.
How To Start Owning What is True To You
When you start to own your truth it can be very freeing, expressing it can bring up very strong fear. Learning how to express that truth clearly and concisely can take time especially if you struggle with assertiveness.
Building more clear and honest communication between you and others can take a lot of courage, self-compassion, and patience.
Top Tips To Start Owning And Expressing Your Truth
How to stop giving your power away especially when you are highly empathic or highly sensitive? Why do empaths struggle to maintain personal power and sovereignty?
Why do empaths find themself so enmeshed in other people’s needs, other people’s pain, and emotional needs? We constantly feed them instead of ourselves, we become the victim.
Stop Giving Your Power Away To Your Loved One’s
It is so easy to hand over our power to your loved ones, your partner, your family, your friends, and even colleagues without realising it. We do this by allowing others to control, manipulate, or push us into choices that are not ours and even worse not in our best interest. These situations will often exhaust us, deplete us, diminish, and even devalue our sense of self, self-worth, and self-esteem.
So many of us give our power away to our fears, distorted beliefs our addictions. We constantly disempower, dis-honour, and disrespect ourselves daily.
Why? Because we have a very distorted perception of ourselves and the world around us. So we end up creating life-long unhealthy patterns that sabotage our health and happiness on a daily basis. Ironically one of the biggest forms of dis-empowerment is the way we give control over our health to other people.
Are You Giving Your Power Away To Your Doctor Or Therapist?
We often assume that those who help support us with our health and well-being, even our spirituality have our best interests at heart. But every time you hand over decisions of your body, mind, emotions, and or spirit to another person without checking in if this feels right for you, you may well be opening yourself up to an element of disempowerment.
Look at the culture in the West of how much we expect our Dr to heal, fix, or treat health conditions or symptoms caused by unhealthy lifestyle choices. Another example of giving your power away and not taking responsibility for our own well-being. We live in a world wherein many ways we are conditioned to give our power and decision-making away to someone else, which is not only disempowering but potentially damaging on so many levels.
Are You Giving Your Power Away To Psychics, Mediums, Or Horoscope Predictions?
Or too much power over to a Coach, Healer, or Spiritual Teacher?
Stop, take time to get centered, and be aware of where you are handling your power or leaking energy.
As healers, we are here to help, sometimes guide or teach you. But you should never give your power away or over to us. We are here to help empower you, we are here to help hold a space of healing, even challenge, question, and yes sometimes trigger you. In fact in some ways, we are not here to be liked even though we are here to do right by you.
But sadly there can be a misuse of power and harmful practice in coaching, healing, and spiritual teaching. Harmful practice in the holistic therapy industry nearly cost me my eye and another cost me serious liver toxicity. I was young, naive, vulnerable, and trusted the wrong therapists.
“Stop giving your life away to other people.”― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
Know You Are Enough
Unfortunately today we live in a society where are at our core we feel we are not enough. This feeling of lack of not enough triggers a deep need in many people to have more, be more to such an extent they will do almost anything to get more.
This lack will even try to destroy or disempower others in their struggle to appear more special, more spiritual, more awakened, and more successful.
Look at the generation we are living in, one where you can buy anything at the press of a button. One of the most concerning is the ability to get a certificate or diploma in something in over a few days to a few weeks in something that would previously take a year or two.
Every day individuals are naively giving their power and lots of hard-earned cash away to anyone or anyone who promises them something faster, easier; instant transformation, instant success.
So it is important than ever to become more mindful of your daily interactions.
It is so important to start listening to your inner guidance your intuition, and your spiritual connection.
Is That Situation Or Person Enabling You Or Disabling You?
We are all human and we are all evolving but it is important to recognise when we are not being supported or empowered and when we are being disempowered or controlled.
I have been a highly sensitive empath for as long as I can remember. I only began to take a lot of my power back after a spiritual experience in intensive care where I was fighting for my life. And a few years later where I saw a visual energetic imprint of all these people’s opinions about the cause of my rare medical challenges. In many ways, it was so enlightening as I could see over 45 years’ worth of different medical professionals’ opinions, different healers, therapists, even family members, and friends’ opinions. Many different people’s beliefs that I had taken into my energetic field.
Like so many people, so many empaths I didn’t realise how much of my power I was giving away. How much unconsciously I was allowing other people’s views and energy into my unconscious and energetic field. As an unruly empath and chronic people pleaser I gave my power away daily.
When you are more earthed, stable, and in your own body and energetic field. You are less likely to be dominated or manipulated by others’ energy or opinions. This is extremely important for empaths and sensitives who struggle with energetic boundaries.
Make meditation an important daily practice. Meditation helps you connect with your inner wisdom and recognise what is right for you.
Stop making assumptions
tStop making assumptions that other people always know better than you, always have your interests at heart. Just because they appear to be more, knowledgeable, wise, or experienced doesn’t automatically mean they do. Learn the art of discernment. In many ways, people give their power away to others regularly because of poor discernment.
Take responsibility for your actions and inactions.
Don’t expect others to fix, heal, sort, or solve your problems. Of course, we all need help, support, other people’s skills and knowledge. But it’s important to take ownership of areas in our lives we need to change. Do not expect others to do this for you.
Do not be scared to ask
Specific questions if you are unsure about a situation. For example, ask a Dr or therapist why they suggest or think this is the best form of therapy. Do not be shy about finding out more about someone’s level of expertise, or testimonials of any claims made.
Be clear in your communication,
about what you need, what you believe, and how you feel.
Don’t let someone rush you into a decision you are unsure about.
It is okay to say I am unsure about this, I need time to think about it.
Set and maintain healthy boundaries as part of your daily routine and your mindset. Especially when you are highly empathic or sensitive, more anxious, stressed, or vulnerable.
Be mindful of unhealthy traits, and unhealthy thinking patterns.
Where in your life are you an over pleaser, over giver, have unfound guilt, the wounded healer…?
Do some inner child work to heal those old distorted beliefs and core wounds that entrap you into the people pleaser, the over giver, the nurturer? Heal and teach the child who never learned about boundaries, who never learned to self-care.
As Marianne Williamson states in A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles” –
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
