9 ways to step into your power as a lightworker, so you can fulfil your life and soul’s mission with more strength and wisdom. Top ways to step into your soul power, reclaim the life you are meant to live and do the work you are here to do with more ease.
Stepping Into Your Power And Purpose
The world needs you the lightworkers, the intuitives, the healers, the creatives and the visionaries to step into your power so that together we can create powerful shifts. The more the awakened lightworker steps up in their life, their work with a courageous open heart and lead by example, we organically encourage those around us to do the same.
So what does stepping into your power as a lightworker really mean?
A lightworker is a worker of light, a worker of the light and love of god, it is someone who genuinely wants to make a powerful difference in the world and makes that an integral part of their life. At a soul level, they have a great pull to be of service to humanity at a very deep level, to help raise the vibration of humanity at this time. So they choose certain roles, and jobs to be of service rather than focus on the monetary benefits.
Lightworkers have all sorts of vocations they are not just healers, spiritual teachers, and therapists they are the heart-based lawyers, doctors, caregivers, charity workers, and individuals in all sorts of roles that really take their spiritual path and spiritual growth very seriously.
It is not something that is trendy or something that should be prostituted at the highest bidder, it is a sacred journey that many at this time are called to be part of.
Stepping Into Your Power As A Lightworker Involves…
Doing the deep shadow and soul work, being able to face our biggest fears, the dark nights of the soul so we can embody and hold more love, light, strength and power for humanity at this time.
Being a lightworker comes in all shapes and disguises, it is a very different and unique path for each and every lightworker. It is paved with initiations and what I believe is the ability to move through the hero’s journey.
Top Tips To Stepping Into Your Power As A Lightworker
Deep Stillness:
Be still and know that I am god. The ability to be still, to achieve deep stillness is the space where we hear the voice of god, we recharge and reconnect with our heart and soul.
That is why the ability to meditate deeply is important and powerful for the lightworker role,
The ability to be quiet and still, helps us discern between spiritual guidance and our egoic wants, desires and fears. It dramatically increases our intuition and our psychic senses.
The right meditation techniques and the right meditation approach can make a huge difference, I teach a variety of meditation approaches including quantum strategies that help clients and students achieve deep stillness quickly.
Ask For Daily Guidance:
It is so important for us to ask for guidance be a channel for god’s guidance and your soul’s essence on not just a day-to-day basis but a moment-to-moment basis throughout the day, to keep us on track. Especially when we feel unsure, overwhelmed or confused.
And as someone said to me many years ago don’t be shy about asking for BIG SIGNS, huge signs if need be. Sometimes these signs come in not just signs but in situations that force you away from a situation or into a new direction. At the time it may not feel very comfortable, but later on, you can see the why, the huge gift within the situation.
Patience is everything as a lightworker, Rome wasn’t built in a day and certainly wasn’t taken down in a day.
The lightworker’s role is not a short mission, it is a spiritual journey that is more of a long strong walk than a sprint. Stepping into your power as a lightworker requires a healthy endurance that needs to be paced. We cannot sustain that role from a state of chronic stress, push, push, pushing or fear-based urgency but from a place of grace and in many ways steady pacing.
Just for today, I will … one step at a time, one moment at a time.
Do The Inner Work/ The Shadow Work
Lightwork involves a certain amount of inner work, spiritual initiations and spiritual growth. Sometimes the individual isn’t consciously aware of these initiations or inner shifts in their life or journey. But they are key situations that raise their consciousness enough to pivot that soul to the next level or lesson in their life and soul purpose and mission.
With each event, we have the opportunity to face and work through our inner shadow, our inner demons or fears. More conscious lightworkers actively go looking for the help, support and teachings that will help them move through the shadow work. Because they know how important this deep soul work is at raising our vibration and levels of consciousness as individuals and on the planet.
No matter where we are or have been on our journey we have to do the inner work, the shadow work, heal our inner child wounding, and heal our triggers. It is one of the reasons I am very passionate about archetypal work as it can be a very effective and efficient way to identify our shadow traits and strengths more strongly.
No matter how long we have been doing shadow work and inner child work, 10, 20, 30 years or more, there is always more that we can do to raise our vibration.
Tap Into Your Magical Child:
Tapping into our inner magical child is a powerful way to access more light, love, magic and miracles from the god essence, Children have such purity and such deep connection to the divine light that it can help us take our creativity and transformation to a whole new level.
Magical Child inner child work is extremely powerful at helping us access magical transformations is one of my favourite tools with clients. Healing the inner child and the magical/creative child helps open us up to the purest aspect of the alchemist, the creator, the divine and magical child. It can help us tap into unlimited potential, and break free from outdated structures in the matrix. Become more divine and authentic in our every day life.
Develop Spiritual Discernment
One of the biggest lessons all souls need to cultivate today is more spiritual discernment. Especially in the world today when there is so much inversion through psychological manipulation of social media and television (tell-a-lie-vision). Where humans let other humans sitting in a digital box or device tell them what is fact or truth without any questions or spiritual discernment.
Spiritual discernment is what helps us navigate through a spiritual war with more wisdom and strength. That is why a good spiritual teacher has to have a good level of spiritual discernment, have highly developed intuition. And is not as easily fooled or swayed by the mass psychological manipulation that is there to confuse us.
This is vital for healers and energy workers who need to be able to spiritually discern what they are connecting to. Not just assume they are always connecting to the highest light of divine truth. In a spiritual war, there is a lot of false light, false teachings, false guides that can influence and energetically interfere with the work we do.
Develop A Spiritual Backbone
I believe developing a spiritual backbone is so important if you are serious about being a lightworker. This involves us having first to have the courage to face spiritual truths about ourselves, our own journey, our weaknesses and vulnerabilities, and what we are teaching and have been teaching.
As well as having the spiritual backbone to face the truth, especially those things that are very difficult to swallow. I know despite being extremely empathic and highly sensitive, every day I face my fears and step into my power, the stronger I become, the stronger we all will become.
The lightworker’s journey is not for the faint-hearted, it is not a fad or passing trend. Something you dip your toe into, to see if it feels good. It is an embedded aspect of your soul’s blueprint. It requires a high level of integrity and courage that can be felt so strongly by others that it ignites others to rise up, to do what is right and what is their calling. The more we develop a stronger spiritual backbone, we help others to do the same.
Be Part Of A Family Of Like-Minded Souls
It can be very lonely as a lightworker, especially for certain types of lightworkers who have certain major roles such as the visionaries. Being part of a family of like-minded souls is both strengthening and nurturing. When we work together and support each other we grow together and create much more powerful shifts.
This is one of the main reasons I created my new co-creating new earth sessions, a space where lightworkers can explore ways to move forward together and build stronger relationships with lightworkers on similar missions or with a similar drive. We don’t need to do it all alone, we are family, and here to work together.
Honouring The Lightworkers Role:
I believe it is important to honour the lightworker’s role. Not to view the lightworker’s role as more important than any other role from an egoic perspective. But to have the respect to see how privileged we are to be given such beautiful tasks on our soul’s mission.
Every single one of us has a different soul journey and life challenges that have been very important in shaping who we are and who will be. It is a role that evolves and grows as we spiritually mature and grow in our awakening and awareness.
When we recognise the value of our gifts and skills, we realise they need to be respected, valued and harnessed the right way. Part of that is also respecting other lightworkers’ roles we may not understand or feel aligned with.
I see you, I hear you, I feel the light in you, I honour the light in you.
11 Common Signs Of Inner Child Wounds, Inner Child Wounding that shows up in our everyday life
So What Is Inner Child Wounds?
Well if we look at the Inner Child, the Inner Child is aspects of the human psyche, the unconscious inner child that is within us all. But the inner child within carries both light and shadow aspects. Those light and shadow aspects of the inner child stem from life experiences and life challenges that may have not been healed.
Examples of light aspects include that sense of awe and magic we see in the inner magical child or innocent child and the shadow aspects include the wounded child and also aspects of the eternal child that doesn’t want to take self-responsibility.
Common Causes Of Inner Child Wounds
Common causes of Inner Child Wounding include painful and traumatic experiences, physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse as well as neglect. Although deep inner child trauma is usually caused by abuse, neglect, and trauma we all have inner child wounds triggered by normal childhood experiences.
Inner child wounds can be triggered by a deeply embarrassing experience at school, a hurtful moment with a sibling, or a crossword by a parent or caregiver. For those of you who are Empaths or HSP’s, those wounds can be triggered by the painful experiences of those around you. A lot of our everyday anxiety and stress is actually triggered by inner child wounding.
There are many different approaches to healing the Inner Child, some include nurturing and re-parenting the Inner Child, Internal Family System Therapy, Archetypal and Inner Child Healing. Others are about emotional and nervous system regulation.
Accept Your Inner Child Is Wounded:
Well like any form of healing or therapy it is important to recognise your inner child has some wounding. Now as I say that it is important for you to understand at your core, you are not damaged. This sort of view creates so many other problems.
In many ways, it is our unconscious beliefs and patterns, our unconscious stories that keep certain patterns in the psyche that needs to be addressed.
Once you accept that aspects of your inner child needs nurturing, needs support it helps encourage more self-awareness and self-care.
Recognise Your Inner Child Needs To Be Loved And Cared For:
The most important thing a child needs is love, acceptance. We are very good at being loving to other people, but most of us seriously struggle to love ourselves.
When a child feels wounded mentally, emotionally, physically, or even spiritually that child needs love, that child needs acceptance, that child needs care.
Your Inner Child wounds needs that self-love, that self-care, and that self-acceptance it needs the right type of healing, support and inner child nurturing.
Learn To Listen To Your Inner Child:
An emotionally and mentally healthy child needs to be heard, to be understood by those who are caring for that child. Your Inner Child needs to be heard, so many Inner Child wounds begin with not abuse or trauma, but neglect, even misunderstanding. Take the time to listen to what your Inner Child needs and wants, take time to understand your inner child.
One of the easiest ways to start listening to your Inner Child is getting into the habit of daily meditation and journaling. Meditation should always come first as meditation helps us slow down the monkey mind and become more connected to our internal world. This helps you naturally become aware of those distorted and unhealthy thought patterns and behaviours, those triggers. The more you become aware of these thoughts and behaviours you can start journalling them. Art Journaling can be very helpful in-fact deeply therapeutic.
Let Your Inner Child Come Out To Play
Every child needs lots of playtime, creative time, so does your inner child. So make sure you make time for your inner child, we are never too old for some fun, especially things you loved to do in your childhood. Spending time with children especially young children is a great way to nurture your inner child, to help some of those inner child wounds especially those abandoned inner child wounds. Ylang Ylang the inner child oil can support more creative flow whilst soothing the nervous system.
Heal Your Wounded Child
Get the support, the help you need to heal your wounded child, making sure you choose someone who is suitably qualified. Inner Child Therapy and Healing is something that should always be done in a very safe and effective way. And remember it doesn’t matter how experienced a healer or therapist you are. We all need a little help to see those blind spots. I am a healer of 30 years and I still get help from other healers, therapists to support other aspects of my healing and my inner child. If you would like to learn more about my one -to one Inner Child Healing Sessions CLICK HERE
The Benefits Of Inner Child Wound Healing
When You Heal Your Inner Child Wounds You Heal The Adult You
The reality is when we heal our inner child wounds we heal the adult we are today, it helps heal our relationship not just with ourselves, but the world and those around us. Inner Child healing can help increase confidence, increase self-esteem and self-worth, encourage healthier boundaries and more effective communication in relationship. This doesn’t just help our mental and emotional wellbeing but our physical wellbeing.1
Heal Your Magical Child– Your Inner Magician Archetype and Inner Wounded Child. Learn why healing your inner alchemist and magician archetype can help you in your life, work, and spiritual business.
I am very familiar with some of the most beautiful light and disruptive shadow aspects of the magical child. The powerful gifts of the alchemist and magician But equally the common sabotaging patterns when the Alchemist is coming from a state of fear, anxiety, trauma, lack, or rejection.
I see everyday examples of the wounded magical child in so many wounded healers, coaches, intuitive, and spiritual teachers. Like most healers, I have been working on those patterns in my own life for many years.
As a highly empathic sensitive, I see many unruly empaths and healers also very disconnected from their divine and magical child. Embedded in core wounds that are keeping them stuck and afraid of their most beautiful, magical, and powerful gifts. Which they have not yet learned to fully harness.
The reality is when you can tap into and heal not just your inner child but your magical child, you can start to make big shifts. Big shifts in recognizing your power, owning and honouring your gifts, life, and soul purpose that is why shadow work and inner child work are so powerful.
But Inner Child Therapy just like any form of deep soul and trauma work should always be done by someone who has the right skill set. Make sure you choose a therapist or healer who understands and is qualified and experienced to work at a deep soul level and with trauma.
Unfortunately, I have witnessed and been on the other side of Inner Child work by healers who hadn’t a clue what they were doing. Who had no understanding or experience of working with trauma, no understanding of the psychological damage they can do when they don’t approach Inner Child Healing in a safe effective therapeutic way?
Building Connection With Your Magical Child
With any type of Inner Child work, the initial connection with the inner child must be built on trust. Especially in those who have suffered a lot of trauma, building strong inner child connections can take patience and time.
If the healer or therapist rushes the process or doesn’t know what they are doing, this can cause further issues by pushing the inner child into more hiding.
So when trying to heal your Magical Child make sure you understand you are dealing with your inner child’s view of their world, their story.
Make sure you get the right help and support from someone who can help hold your inner child in a safe space.
How To Connect With Your Magical Child
Get Quiet:
You won’t find your inner magical child in busyness or chaos. It is so important to take time to switch off from distractions, relax, and generally be in the moment. Like any child, your inner child can only be heard properly when you take time to be quiet, to be still.
Look For Magic And Miracles:
Young children tend to see the magic and awe in everything around them. Their untainted innocence and sense of wonder help* them see the beauty and magic of life and every living creature. They fully immerse themself in so many things we as adults don’t notice or take for granted. So start noticing the magic, the miracles that are here every single day.
Make Time For Fun And Play:
Too much work doesn’t just make jack a boring boy it makes him an unhealthy and unhappy boy. Make a list of all the fun things you enjoyed as a child and start bringing them into your daily and weekly life. Don’t let any distortive thoughts around age, or what you should and shouldn’t do stop you from having some inner child fun. To stay happy and healthy build a strong connection with your eternal child your playful child. Make time for hobbies, things you enjoy doing even those things you love to do but aren’t very good at, and even those things that get very very messy.
Honour Your Magical Child:
When you honour the innocent and magical aspects of your core, you honour your greatest potential and soul desires. The greatest abuse to the Magical Child, or the Innocent Child is not owning, valuing, or honouring your gifts. Stop being ashamed or fearful of your gift learn how to nurture them and develop them with the right help. Not fully honouring or developing your gifts or mastering your skills can lead to all sorts of problems. Think of the devastation left behind by the impatient sorcerer’s apprentice and you get the ideal. Many wounded magicians end up being more attracted to dark and illusion than light and pureness without even realising it.
Unlock Your Inner Alchemist:
The alchemist and magician’s archetypal traits love to experiment with new ideas, concepts, blends, and remedies. Anything that will support create change and shifts. That is why many magician archetypes become aromatherapists, herbalists, homeopaths, flower essence practitioners. Others become mindset practitioners, hypnotherapists, life coaches, energy, and spiritual healers. Or are attracted to many of these tools in their work, my inner alchemist inspired me to study many of these things.
Develop Discernment and Wisdom:
Part of the Magical Child’s journey is about treading the line between dark and light so they can learn how to transform from the dark. So it is very much about developing discernment and wisdom which too often comes from experience than just insight. The deeply wounded Magician and Alchemist Archetype that has been more abused than empowered is easily seduced by power, financial, or celebrity success at any cost. The healed and wise Master Magician has developed discernment and wisdom. They recognise that all that glitters is not gold and that the greatest most precious gold comes from a pure heart and soul.
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What does following your own truth mean? And why can owning your truth be hard at times especially when you are highly empathic or sensitive.
Living Your Own Truth
Well, to live your truth is about living a life full of authenticity and openness. To me, it is also one that is guided and supported by good spiritual guidance.
But why is not always easy, why do so many of us live most of our lives trying to live up to other people’s expectations or definitions of truth than our own truth?
As a highly sensitive empath I was a big people pleaser who struggled to own my truth. I have spent most of my life enmeshed in other people’s emotions I struggled to know my own. I’ve struggled to own and express my truth because of a distorted perception that owning my truth would hurt someone else.
Following Your Own Truth
For me following your truth has to start by recognising and owning what is true to you, no one else. From infanthood, we are exposed to other people’s beliefs, conditioning, values, and wounding. Other people’s perceptions of life or truth are based on their beliefs, personal experiences, and what feels true for them.
Every single one of us is uniquely different in our own unique soul’s essence and our purpose. That essence is part of a bigger picture, the jigsaw of life. And to do that in the healthiest authentic way we need to be able to follow what is true in our heart.
In many ways, I mean to follow our spiritual truth, not our egoic truth. So it is about getting out of our head, and our fear, and into the heart and soul.
Identifying Your Truth When Your Highly Empathic
We are all exposed to other people’s beliefs and ideologies daily. But at a core level, your soul craves the need to follow your path. Your spirit wants to live a life that is based on your integral values, and your inner compass.
One thing I was taught early on by my father was to trust my intuition. But to be honest, being a bit of an unruly empath my energy can easily be dominated by much stronger personalities or their views.
Like many empaths, I am very easily entangled by the emotional pain and needs of others. So I have to identify, own, and step into my truth, knowing what is my energy and what is not.
Moving Into What Is True For You
Believe me, moving into your truth isn’t easy if you have strong characters or strong views around you. But finding your truth is so important when trying to live a more healthy authentic life. If you don’t it is too easy to be living everyone else’s truth rather than your own.
Why It Is Easy To Lose Your Truth
So many people struggle to know their truth never mind follow their truth. It’s easy to lose yourself, your truth, your voice in relationships, within family dynamics, or at work. In jobs and careers where you have to live by other people’s policies, rules, core ethics, and values it is easy to lose or forget your truth.
Many work environments encourage suppression of truth and core values so much so you barely recognise yourself. Modern society programs us and gaslights us to question our reality and question what is morally right. All designed to cause doubt and confusion.
This is especially true for those of you who are highly empathic with unhealthy boundaries. But believe me, I know if you don’t get behind your truth, your inner guidance, you lose yourself. It can lead to anxiety, and stress because you have moved out of alignment with yourself.
Of course, on a spiritual level, everyone’s truth is just a story, just a perception. But to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves and to have direction we need to know ourselves. We need to know what feels right and fits with our values and what doesn’t. Suppressing or denying what feels true for you, can lead to all sorts of internal chaos, confusion even disease. So start owning your truth today.
How To Start Owning What is True To You
When you start to own your truth it can be very freeing, expressing it can bring up very strong fear. Learning how to express that truth clearly and concisely can take time especially if you struggle with assertiveness.
Building more clear and honest communication between you and others can take a lot of courage, self-compassion, and patience.
Top Tips To Start Owning And Expressing Your Truth
How to stop giving your power away especially when you are highly empathic or highly sensitive? Why do empaths struggle to maintain personal power and sovereignty?
Why do empaths find themself so enmeshed in other people’s needs, other people’s pain, and emotional needs? We constantly feed them instead of ourselves, we become the victim.
Stop Giving Your Power Away To Your Loved One’s
It is so easy to hand over our power to your loved ones, your partner, your family, your friends, and even colleagues without realising it. We do this by allowing others to control, manipulate, or push us into choices that are not ours and even worse not in our best interest. These situations will often exhaust us, deplete us, diminish, and even devalue our sense of self, self-worth, and self-esteem.
So many of us give our power away to our fears, distorted beliefs our addictions. We constantly disempower, dis-honour, and disrespect ourselves daily.
Why? Because we have a very distorted perception of ourselves and the world around us. So we end up creating life-long unhealthy patterns that sabotage our health and happiness on a daily basis. Ironically one of the biggest forms of dis-empowerment is the way we give control over our health to other people.
Are You Giving Your Power Away To Your Doctor Or Therapist?
We often assume that those who help support us with our health and well-being, even our spirituality have our best interests at heart. But every time you hand over decisions of your body, mind, emotions, and or spirit to another person without checking in if this feels right for you, you may well be opening yourself up to an element of disempowerment.
Look at the culture in the West of how much we expect our Dr to heal, fix, or treat health conditions or symptoms caused by unhealthy lifestyle choices. Another example of giving your power away and not taking responsibility for our own well-being. We live in a world wherein many ways we are conditioned to give our power and decision-making away to someone else, which is not only disempowering but potentially damaging on so many levels.
Are You Giving Your Power Away To Psychics, Mediums, Or Horoscope Predictions?
Or too much power over to a Coach, Healer, or Spiritual Teacher?
Stop, take time to get centered, and be aware of where you are handling your power or leaking energy.
As healers, we are here to help, sometimes guide or teach you. But you should never give your power away or over to us. We are here to help empower you, we are here to help hold a space of healing, even challenge, question, and yes sometimes trigger you. In fact in some ways, we are not here to be liked even though we are here to do right by you.
But sadly there can be a misuse of power and harmful practice in coaching, healing, and spiritual teaching. Harmful practice in the holistic therapy industry nearly cost me my eye and another cost me serious liver toxicity. I was young, naive, vulnerable, and trusted the wrong therapists.
“Stop giving your life away to other people.”― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
Know You Are Enough
Unfortunately today we live in a society where are at our core we feel we are not enough. This feeling of lack of not enough triggers a deep need in many people to have more, be more to such an extent they will do almost anything to get more.
This lack will even try to destroy or disempower others in their struggle to appear more special, more spiritual, more awakened, and more successful.
Look at the generation we are living in, one where you can buy anything at the press of a button. One of the most concerning is the ability to get a certificate or diploma in something in over a few days to a few weeks in something that would previously take a year or two.
Every day individuals are naively giving their power and lots of hard-earned cash away to anyone or anyone who promises them something faster, easier; instant transformation, instant success.
So it is important than ever to become more mindful of your daily interactions.
It is so important to start listening to your inner guidance your intuition, and your spiritual connection.
Is That Situation Or Person Enabling You Or Disabling You?
We are all human and we are all evolving but it is important to recognise when we are not being supported or empowered and when we are being disempowered or controlled.
I have been a highly sensitive empath for as long as I can remember. I only began to take a lot of my power back after a spiritual experience in intensive care where I was fighting for my life. And a few years later where I saw a visual energetic imprint of all these people’s opinions about the cause of my rare medical challenges. In many ways, it was so enlightening as I could see over 45 years’ worth of different medical professionals’ opinions, different healers, therapists, even family members, and friends’ opinions. Many different people’s beliefs that I had taken into my energetic field.
Like so many people, so many empaths I didn’t realise how much of my power I was giving away. How much unconsciously I was allowing other people’s views and energy into my unconscious and energetic field. As an unruly empath and chronic people pleaser I gave my power away daily.
When you are more earthed, stable, and in your own body and energetic field. You are less likely to be dominated or manipulated by others’ energy or opinions. This is extremely important for empaths and sensitives who struggle with energetic boundaries.
Make meditation an important daily practice. Meditation helps you connect with your inner wisdom and recognise what is right for you.
Stop making assumptions
tStop making assumptions that other people always know better than you, always have your interests at heart. Just because they appear to be more, knowledgeable, wise, or experienced doesn’t automatically mean they do. Learn the art of discernment. In many ways, people give their power away to others regularly because of poor discernment.
Take responsibility for your actions and inactions.
Don’t expect others to fix, heal, sort, or solve your problems. Of course, we all need help, support, other people’s skills and knowledge. But it’s important to take ownership of areas in our lives we need to change. Do not expect others to do this for you.
Do not be scared to ask
Specific questions if you are unsure about a situation. For example, ask a Dr or therapist why they suggest or think this is the best form of therapy. Do not be shy about finding out more about someone’s level of expertise, or testimonials of any claims made.
Be clear in your communication,
about what you need, what you believe, and how you feel.
Don’t let someone rush you into a decision you are unsure about.
It is okay to say I am unsure about this, I need time to think about it.
Set and maintain healthy boundaries as part of your daily routine and your mindset. Especially when you are highly empathic or sensitive, more anxious, stressed, or vulnerable.
Be mindful of unhealthy traits, and unhealthy thinking patterns.
Where in your life are you an over pleaser, over giver, have unfound guilt, the wounded healer…?
Do some inner child work to heal those old distorted beliefs and core wounds that entrap you into the people pleaser, the over giver, the nurturer? Heal and teach the child who never learned about boundaries, who never learned to self-care.
As Marianne Williamson states in A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles” –
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
Why Do Empaths Struggle With Self-Love And Self-Care?
Why do so many empaths struggle with overwhelm, exhaustion, and burnout?
Have so many issues around boundaries and feeling so much.
The Empaths Struggle
So many empaths struggle to say NO, many find it difficult to create and maintain healthy energetic boundaries which can lead to all sorts of life, health, work, and business challenges. Especially issues around self-care, self-love, and self-compassion.
Their high level of empathy, and ability to sense other people’s physical, mental, emotional even spiritual often leads to strong tendencies towards over-caring, over-giving, and putting others’ needs before their own.
So much so that they are more likely to suffer from exhaustion, stress, compassion fatigue, and burnout. Especially when so many of you have strong archetypal traits of the martyr, fixer, healer, nurturer, and rescuer.
Why Many Empaths Struggle With Over Giving?
Empaths struggle with over-giving and caring because most empaths are in some way energetically aware and often immersed in the energy, pain, and drama of the people and things around them.
An empath will often find it difficult to differentiate their own needs, their energy field from the energy field, and the emotions of others.
Common Empathic Traits
An empath will be very aware of other people’s emotions and needs they will often absorb another person’s feelings and or pain.
Empaths often need lots of time out, empaths are so sensitive to the energy and people around them they need lots of time out.
Empaths are often highly sensitive so are more sensitive to energy; not just people but their surroundings, places, items, the world, and animals…
The empathic child will often bring these gifts through very clearly but if those around don’t understand and support the child’s gifts, the child will often feel confused, ashamed, and fearful which often leads to an emotional and or energetic shut-down.
Empaths can be very misunderstood like the HSP they can be categorised as too weak, too sensitive, strange, or weird because of their heightened awareness and experiences that most people have no comprehension of.
Empaths very easily lose their identity in relationships so can often avoid close or intimate relationships to protect themselves. They can find it extremely challenging to deal with controlling relationships, parents, and work colleagues.
A lot of empaths are introverted but for those with more extroverted tendencies, it is often important for them to spend time alone or resting.
Many empaths end up with burnout or other types of chronic health challenges due to poor management of their gifts.
Especially lack of boundaries, and over-attachment to being the carer, supporter, helper, healer, and nurturer. Most wounded healers are empaths.
Many empaths don’t just feel and absorb people’s emotional pain but also feel their physical pain.
How To Heal The Empaths Struggle
The empaths struggle doesn’t go away overnight in many ways it requires a multi-faceted approach, here are some useful tips I learned over the last 30 years as a healer and a highly sensitive and very unruly empath.
Get More Soul-Aligned and Soul Connected
One of the most powerful things empaths can do to become more soul-empowered and spiritually boundaries is to get more soul-connected and soul-aligned. We are more spiritually guided and aligned with our soul’s essence and our soul’s calling than energetically interfered with other people’s wounding and distortions.
Start to take one step, one moment at a time, and be less in the future, the past, or in the what-ifs. Don’t let the monkey mind run or ruin your world, get hooked up in other people’s dramas, which sadly we as empaths tend to do.
Start meditating daily. Meditation helps you not only be in the moment, and be more grounded and centered but it increases self-awareness. It will help you become more of a witness when you are giving your energy or power away to others. Sign up for my Free 5 Minute Meditation.
Inner child work is a powerful way to heal incidents in your life’s timeline where you took on unhealthy thought patterns, trauma, and suppressed emotions that are causing blockages in your health and well-being. Where your were shamed about your empathy or sensitivity.
Make Time For Self Care And Self Love
Make sure you take time each day to incorporate more self love and self care into your life and daily routine. Including more hygge activities into your life is a great way to embody more self care, joy and love in our life. It is about encouraging more conscious attention on the simple things in life that give us more contentment and happiness.
Are you ready to turn your empathic gifts into your biggest strength?
Are you ready to nurture your spiritual and intuitive gifts?
